Farida Rizwan

I am Farida Rizwan, 55, Counselor and Psychotherapist working as Senior Curriculum Developer with Chimple Learning. I am ardent blogger @www.chaptersfrommylife.com and share my life experiences of surviving breast cancer 3rd stage for 25 years, bringing up my children and finding my own identity after giving it up for marriage. I am passionate educationist who believes in inclusive education and inclusive society for all. My special needs daughter who is 26 years of age, refers to regular people as 'you people' and special people as 'we people'. This was a very painful for me and made me realize the way our society makes special needs people feel separated from regular stream. I want everyone to say 'We People'. I am not feminist but I don't believe a gender should give any person a leverage.

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Why Can’t A Wife Earn More Than Her Husband?

No matter how educated they are, how open-minded they tend to be, somewhere deep inside the poison of patriarchy has seeped into all women, and it oozes out once in a while. 

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She Hulk Seems Like The Same Patriarchal Hogwash In A New Bottle… And Made Me Squirm

She Hulk series seems to say that even a woman with a flourishing career and super powers is happy only when she is validated by a man.

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Can Suspicion Of A Spouse’s Extramarital Affair Be Your License To Kill?!

If we have to stop crime against women - whether girl infant, girl students, teen girls, married women, working women, whoever - then we have to stop saying “She invited it, she asked for it”.

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The Worst Trap For A Woman Is To Give Up Her Dreams And ‘Settle’ Down As Wife And Daughter In Law!

If someone feels upset, sad or angry because you want to study further, take up a job and live your life on your terms without being a slave to abled adults, it is their problem and not yours.

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Whose Fault Is It When A Married Man Has An Affair?

When it comes to a relationship considered illicit by society, in most cases, the blame and shame are thrown at the woman alone. 

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Why The Amber Heard v/s Johnny Depp Modern Day Witch Hunt Is A Nightmare For Domestic Violence Survivors!

This can have a drastic effect on other victims of domestic violence. It will also encourage the abuser that they can now threaten their victim that he/she may end up like Amber Heard on the internet.  

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Indigo Airlines, Your Apology On The Appalling Treatment Of A Special Child Is Useless Without A Mindset Change!

The biggest irony is that this manager decides that the child in a wheelchair, who cannot even walk independently could get up and hurt everyone around him. HOW? So, he decides to prevent him from getting on the flight.

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Stop Child Pornography: Enough Is Enough!

Much worse is the horrid and shocking content that is being uploaded nowadays; the demand for sadistic content is also on a rise.

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How Sexual Predators Take Advantage Of A Child’s Innocence And Lack Of Vocabulary Skills…

He could see that she was terrified. Something told him that he had to talk to his daughter and find out the reason behind her behavior.

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‘Do You Expect Me To Keep Quiet If You Hit?’ I Asked My Husband The 1st Time He Threatened Me

The threat of occasionally getting a beating or two for mistakes looms over every married woman’s head. It can just happen, anywhere, any day, anytime.

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When I Refused To Give In Any More To The Slavery An Indian DIL Is Expected To Do

No one ever takes it as a crime when a woman is made to do all the petty chores for all the members of a family, even for those who are having more free time and are fitter than her.

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My Personal POV – How Would We Indians React If It Was His Mom And Not His Wife, That Will Had Defended?

What initially shocked me was the mocking, blaming, and shaming comments thrown toward the wife- Jada Pinkett Smith, but then I realized this is not new. 

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Mammograms, Childbirth, Check-ups… Where’s The Care For Dignity Of Patients In A Vulnerable Position?

Things were good until I was pregnant with my first child. When the check-up started, I was horrified to note that there was no place for the word dignity when you enter a hospital.

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Education Of Girls Is Forever, Not The Diamonds, Chocolates & Roses For Women’s Day!

This women's day, let us ignore the gifts like flowers, jewellery, or chocolates, and give the best of all gifts - education of girls and women. Let us cheer for every girl going to school.

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The Staring Eyes, When Will They Stop?

I think some men enjoy making girls/women uncomfortable by staring at them. It happens very openly, even when we are with our family, in public places or in those places we consider safe.

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When I Was Advised ‘Take Control Of Your Daughter In Law Immediately’ When My Son Got Married

I do not want to burden myself in my old age with controlling my son and daughter-in-law’s life. I wanted my own freedom; that wisely meant I should give freedom to my children as well.

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The Story Of A Daughter Killed And A Son Saved…

If you can read through the article, you will find the patriarchal stink oozing out for almost a decade in her life, which finally culminated in an innocent 3 month old baby being killed by the person who should have protected her.

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Let Me Be Myself!

A beautiful poem about change and evolving!

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How To Identify A Toxic Relationship? Here Are Some Signs!

As a counsellor I have seen for the woman in a toxic relationship, the change is in reverse. The butterfly changes into a caterpillar, such that people who meet them after a big gap will not even recognize them anymore!

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Why I Cannot Allow My Daughter In Law And Son To Live Independently

Rules are not made by elders but made by everyone depending on their needs. Some of these rules make living together easy and comfortable.

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These Recent Incidents Of Toxic Teachers Leave Us Shaken: Are Schools Safe Spaces? #AbBas

17 innocent girls who trusted the school authorities were molested by those whom they trusted to give them a better future.

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‘I am Leaving My Husband As I Cannot Bear A Daughter/Son With Him’ Said No Woman Ever!

Men give weird reasons for divorcing their wives & are are supported. For women, no reason is good enough to walk away from a bad marriage!

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Should We Chisel Down Our Children To Fit Into Our Dreams Instead Of Encouraging Theirs?

I am not sure who is right - those who try to push the children to their limits or those who allow the children to loiter around and find the limits on their own?

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When I Was A Child My Grandmother Told Me A Horror Story, And That Has Changed My Life

I realized how she usually liked to present the wrongs of others to him which bothered me earlier, but now even though it troubled me I knew why she did it.

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My Daughter In Law Is My Family Member, Not A Caretaker Or Cook!

Recently a relative called me. She asked, “where is your daughter in law?” I said, “she is visiting her dad.” Immediately the question cropped up, “then who is cooking and taking care of you?”

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My Story Of Radical Mastectomy For Breast Cancer… How I Said Goodbye To My Breast The Night Before

I had breast cancer as a 29 year old breastfeeding mom, and chose to have a radical mastectomy... my kids needed me. But I spent some time bonding with my breasts the night before. Here's my story.

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‘My Daughter Is A Young Lady With Special Needs. During Our US Trip She Opened Up, But Is Pushed Into Silence In India’

Apologies to patriotic people, but most of us Indians are not sensitive to special needs people & their emotions. Let's make this world a better place for them!

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A Dishwasher Is ‘Like A Mother Who Cares For Every Little Detail’?! Seriously, IFB?

Shame on the IFB dishwasher ad for stereotyping mothers! I love my children and do take care of them, but that doesn’t mean I have to be 'dutiful' all the time.

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I’m Thankful To My Bad Marriage & Cancer As They Pushed Me Towards My Freedom! 

I was a topper but married a man who was uneducated. I had to follow his strange rules that restricted my freedom, but when cancer happened, I said enough!

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I Was Always Proud Of My Bladder Control, But On This Work Trip I Had To Pray For A Toilet!

I was proud that my bladder was always under my control, but on a work trip where I was the only woman, I had to pray and hope for a toilet!  

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