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Women's dreams. They are always supposed to bend to the will of the dreams of those around us. Why? It is time this changes!
Women’s dreams. They are always supposed to bend to the will of the dreams of those around us. Why? It is time this changes!
Have an aim. Be ambitious. Stand on your feet. Be independent. We all have heard these strong motivating lines in our life.
However, these are not so valid for women. For women, having an aim means get married at the right age. Be ambitious means, take care of your husband’s home. Stand on your feet means, you should be aware of all the household chores. Be independent means, dedicate your life to others.
When we talk about a woman in general, everyone pictures her like a pushover. She can be molded easily the way we want. And that’s what happens with their dreams too.
Their dreams are also constructed at every stage of their life by different people. Nobody cares about what they want or their dreams. Because the ultimate goal of a woman’s life should be to get married and have babies, right? And then there is the full stop to every woman’s life. Dreams are shut down forever.
Why are women’s dreams not long lived?
Why do their dreams have an expiry date?
Why is it so hard for people to believe in them?
Why do they think that women can only be a wife or a mother, not a CEO or an entrepreneur?
Why do they think that a woman is considered settled only if she is married?
Men have goals too. Nobody asks them to quit their goals and tells them to sit at home and look out after the home or kids. We have created this image in our mind where a man is supposed to go out and make money and a woman apparently looks good while cooking food.
Oh I am sorry. Actually we live in a hypocrite society. We want education for our girls. We want jobs for our women. We want to see every woman standing tall with the men. But as soon as she steps ahead from a man, we pull her away from her dreams. Because we live in a patriarchal society. No matter how strong minded you are, you have to stand behind the man. That’s right. You just cannot speak your mind. And darling, if you are married, then you just have to zip your lips. They won’t appreciate your opinions rather they will consider you as a cunning and over smart woman.
We need to stop being regressive when it comes to the women of our society. Women are equally good and we can do much better if given the right opportunities. ‘Progressive nation’ is not only about the technologies and machines. It is also about being progressive in our thoughts.
Men are becoming chefs. This is progressive. Breaking all the stereotypes. They are doing pretty well what supposedly women are asked to do. If you don’t believe turn on your television to any cookery channel.
On the other hand, we have these powerful women. Arundhati Bhattacharya, Chairperson of SBI bank. Chanda Kochhar, MD and CEO of ICICI Bank. Priyanka Chopra, a global icon for youth.
So yes, we need to change our perspective for a better place of our women. We are women, and we are also humans with our dreams.
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Neelu might have outwardly forgiven Ramesh, but in her mind, which once was filled with unconditional love for Ramesh, there was now a seed of resentment.
Ramesh’s footsteps paused at the entrance of the hotel’s ballroom. Inside, his school’s reunion party was going in full swing. The air was heavy, as expensive perfumes and the aroma of food from the buffet table, mingled. There were low murmurs, tinkling laughs and clinks of cutlery.
Ramesh had not wanted to come, knowing that she would be there. She, Neelu, who once had been the love of his life. Taking a deep breath, Ramesh entered the room. His eyes found Neelu almost immediately. She still looked the same. Maybe there was now grey in her hair and a few wrinkles on her face. But her vivacity, her mannerisms were still the same. Things, that had first attracted him.
Stop glorifying biological parenthood - other methods of growing a family are just as valid, and completely a couple's choice, especially of the woman whose body goes through pregnancy and birth.
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Trigger Warning: Contains derogatory remarks about having a baby through surrogacy or any means other than giving birth through biological means, and may be triggering, especially to adoptive parents.
Recently Priyanka Chopra Jonas announced parenthood by surrogacy. This has once again sparked the debate about ethical surrogacy, which is a discussion for another day.
A chance encounter with an old acquaintance makes a woman realise what truly supporting your daughters means - it's time more parents did this.
A chance encounter with an old acquaintance makes a woman realise what truly supporting your daughters means – it’s time more parents did this.
While walking through the busy streets of Karol Bagh market, I saw her. Oh! She looks like Sharma aunty of my parent’s neighborhood, the mother of my childhood friend Shivangi. Walking towards her, I thought of the Shivangi I knew. A 5ft 3 inches tall, yet chubby girl. An intelligent but introverted human being. Beautiful on the inside, but she wore those big, rimmed spectacles – she looked like ‘Jassi’, a famous character of a popular serial of that era. She loved to eat, but still worked hard. She was a very good friend of mine and having known her so closely I loved her for whatever she was from the inside and the outside.
I last met her at a function organized by my family on the occasion of the birth of my baby. After that, my father got transferred and shifted to another city. It’s been 17 long years since the last time we saw each other. I got busy with my family’s responsibilities and she with her career. Despite so many means of communication, we were unable to connect with each other. Seeing aunty, I felt so excited and with many thoughts in my mind I followed her, and after a few minutes, I caught up with her.
Why aren't people asking a woman if she is having a happy life or if she has any dreams? Why is the question always about a child that one may or may not have?
Why aren’t people asking a woman if she is having a happy life or if she has any dreams? Why is the question always about a child that one may or may not have?
Dear Society and the Ladies in this Society,
It is often said that having a baby makes one’s life worth living. I agree it could be so for many women and respect this thought, and I am sure most of you agree with and believe this. However, let me try my best to show you the other side, i.e., not everyone needs to be ambitious about having a baby. Not everyone’s life purpose is to produce a baby.