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These WhatsApp forwards either glorify the 'sacrifice and multitasking' of mother, or the 'silent struggles' of the father! STOP!
Recently I got a forward from a very respectable senior personality, wishing me a beautiful day and the post read-
“What is a mother? Mother-House Keeper-Cook-Teacher-Nurse-Coach-Taxi Driver- Story Teller-Planner-Organiser-Decorator- Best Friend-Worst Enemy- Multitasker. In short, she is wonder woman- There is no person stronger, wiser or more dedicated than a mother.”
And I had replied to the post immediately with due respect and humility towards the person who had sent me
“Sorry Sir, I don’t believe in such glorification of motherhood. These are just made to make woman believe that they are super humans and they are destined to be perfect in all these tasks. And to a point women do believe, that they are supposed to be all these and more. And lose their major chunk of life striving to achieve all these qualities until they realise this was not the life they wanted. So let them be them, let them enjoy their limitations and let them be what they can ONLY do. Doesn’t mean that those who are not good at these are not good mother’s. Not to mention, a father can be all these too.”
Honestly, I get so irritated by such kinds of posts that glorify womanhood, and I often see such posts on fb, especially on mother’s day, women’s day or randomly when people miss their mother, wife etc. I feel it’s high time that it needs to stop and women themselves should say that they are not superwomen and not to expect any superhumanly tasks from them.
Another one I always see are the posts asking not to overlook the sweat, struggle and hidden tears behind fatherhood, which always gets unnoticed, while we shower praises on mother. Well I still don’t understand why fathers need to hide their tears or wear any mask of a super hero or act emotionless while meeting the family’s demands.
When will people understand that Mothers and Fathers are just human beings and they are also prone to making mistakes and have their own limitations. Had we lend a helping hand to them, we would not have needed such posts glorifying their struggles, and the quality of life fathers and mothers would have got, would have been much better, and that would have reflected on the overall family health as well.
My two cents: – If a woman is better at her profession than being a home maker, or if a man is better at home making than that in his profession, please normalize it! There is no such role as mothers role or fathers role and who ever is good at any role, let them do it! Let them live the way they best want to! Live and let live!
Image source: a still from the film English Vinglish
Lawyer by profession, specialising in Service Laws in Kerala, India. Hobbies include blogging, poetry writing, write-ups on day to day issues, parenting, relationships, and other socially relevant matters. read more...
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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