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It can't be a long time since you might have heard somebody mention my name, Izzat. People are after me like crazy. Read my rant here!
It can’t be a long time since you might have heard somebody mention my name, Izzat. People are after me like crazy. Read my rant here!
Yo, what’s up? Main Izzat bol rahi hoon.
I am omnipresent and manically important because I am related to Log kya kahenge? I reside in the unlikeliest of places, the most popular being the feet of elders, the headgear of men and the vagina of women. In case of the elders and the men I am their own Izzat but in the woman’s case, it is a bit crowded as it is basically her family’s Izzat, her society’s Izzat and the Izzat of every other person who is remotely related to her, that resides in her vagina.
I find it quite claustrophobic here. No offence to the vagina, but it is quite a feat having to manage so many people’s Izzat here. Which is strangely the most misunderstood part of a woman, with the clitoris (a part of the vagina) not even known to many. It was hilarious to watch the AIB video and have Kaneez Surka’s character perplex so many men.
I don’t know when and in which era I was put in this place, maybe all the men that were birthed by the vagina left their Izzat behind in the vagina itself. Isn’t it apparent by the zero accountability men have with respect to their actions as long as they can mould themselves into a ‘macho’ man? Into someone who is not a ‘pussy’. It is strange that they keep all their collective Izzat here and still call the vagina weak, men I tell you!
With all the existing troubles the vagina already has, such as menstruation and cramps and not even mentioning reproduction, she also has to house multiple Izzats, each one more egotistical than the other. The irony is that with all the Izzats residing here, you would think that the vagina would be revered but she is not. She is considered ‘weak’ (LOL), and every month when she bleeds she is ostracized.
I really want to know who is it that makes these weird rules. Because they are twisted and, might I say, opportunistic. Because if a crime such as a rape happens, the girl and her vagina are held responsible for losing all the Izzat that was, first of all, kept there without her consent. Even if she does something as innocuous as marrying according to her own wish. Or have sex according to her will, again the collective Izzat is said to be ruined.
My cousin Log Kya Kahenge is battling depression and why won’t she be, she is under constant scrutiny and judgment from everyone and their cat. Her’s is a completely different story, maybe I will nudge her to pen it down someday, sigh!
Acid attack survivor, Pramodini, questions this duplicity of society where if a girl is the victim of a crime, it is still the men who lose their honor and she is considered a burden but the same rules don’t apply for men who seem get away with anything.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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