Be Like Virat Kohli, Not Like The Trolls Calling Him ‘Joru Ka Ghulam’ For Appreciating Anushka!

Support from a wife is highly under-appreciated and underrated, and given our patriarchal setup husband appreciating the wife is a matter of ridicule or criticism.

My husband is a very calm and sorted person who has always been respectful towards me in the 20 years of our married life. I have always heard the remark, “You have a great married life since your husband is so calm and nice.”

Rarely have I heard, including in my own family, that our marriage is successful because I am equally good. It’s as if its taken for granted that the wife should be good and needs no appreciation.

If my husband is worth appreciation, so am I..

When cricketer Virat Kohli has had bad days on field, both before and after his marriage, trolls would directly put the blame on his partner Anushka Sharma! Why just that..haven’t we seen that anything bad happens in a family post marriage, the daughter-in-law is labeled as “panauti” or bad omen?! On the other hand, when Virat Kohli scores well or is in great form no one appreciates Anushka. When something good happens in a family, no one would give credit to the daughter-in-law for that!

It’s good to see Virat Kohli acknowledging the silent support of his wife and dedicating her his victory. When you are down and out, even that support makes you strong. I don’t understand why people have problem with men praising and acknowledging their wife, but despite all the backlash he continues to acknowledge her.

Even in the normal scenario, including me, when the husband goes out or travels for his work; he is at peace because he know the wife is handling the home, children, her work seamlessly. There are many days when the wife is not well, may be having a bad day, exhausted handling the children (of various stages), had an awful day at work but she handles it all with elan. When someone, including the husband, calls her up, she simply states, “I am fine. All good.”

Support is highly under-appreciated and underrated, and given our patriarchal setup husband appreciating the wife is a matter of ridicule or criticism. When the entire world is against you and criticizing you, on your good and bad days when the silent support gives you the strength to fight again, you should always appreciate and acknowledge that support.

Appreciating your own wife doesn’t make you “joru ka ghulam” or less manly rather it makes you the perfect partner, the man whom every woman would appreciate.  It shows the secure, confident man of great character.

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Ritwika Roy Mutsuddi

I am a travel expert by profession and an avid blogger by passion. Parenting and women's issues are something that are close to my heart and I blog a lot about them. read more...

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