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The shackles of patriarchy still need to be broken. But it isn't an easy task when women are conditioned by it too. Often their toxic behaviour nurtures it!
The shackles of patriarchy still need to be broken. But it isn’t an easy task when women are conditioned by it too. Often their toxic behaviour nurtures it!
Let’s admit it – we live in a patriarchal society. Things have improved but we still need a lot of improvement. Everyday I read about unhappy women and see some around me too. Women are battered, emotionally abused, forcefully married, made to do housework without rest, unappreciated, and overworked. Who is the reason for such a sad state of women – the men? Yes! But it’s not just the men. Some times, it is women who also promote patriarchy.
A number of women are made to feel like outsiders by their mothers-in-law. They are ill-treated badly and made to feel that the house is “not theirs.” When a girl child is born, often, more than men it is the women who lament.
Women in abusive marriage for years want their daughters to get married! And it is mothers who mostly teach their daughters to be subservient, adjust, and prioritise everyone else but themselves. They tell their daughters to tolerate it, no matter how bad the situation is.
It is the neighbourhood women who gossip about the way girls dress and look. Or the ones who keep track of how late the girls return, whom they hang out with, or even why a girl isn’t married yet.
Many mothers still don’t teach their son house work, discipline their bad behavior or misogynistic mindset. These mothers are as responsible as fathers for the ‘raja-beta’ syndrome or the ‘boys will be boys’ trope.
There are many female bosses worse than the male bosses. Instead of encouraging them, these women try to pull their female subordinates down.
Everyday around us, we see and read about toxic mothers-in-law, sisters-in-law, bosses, neighbours, ‘friends,’ or ever own mother who do not support their own gender. We hear about women who are vicious and toxic. Till women shun this toxicity, patriarchy will continue to prevail.
Time to break the chain women!
Picture credits: Still from Bollywood movie Hum Saath Saath Hain
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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