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Powerful poetry that narrates the tale of a woman's consent in a relationship from being strangers to marital rape. When a woman says NO it's a NO!
Powerful poetry that narrates the tale of a woman’s consent in a relationship from being strangers to marital rape. When a woman says NO it’s a NO!
If she is a stranger she should let you scan her, If she is a co worker and, if she occasionally laughs with you she should be available for you, if she is a girlfriend she should give in to your sexual advances and if she is a wife to you, she simply has no right to refuse your demand for a regular dose of sex. A woman’s consent has never been given the due precedence and respect.
A woman’s No if it’s a feeble one, is a ‘yes’ in the knowledge of our esteemed members of the judiciary and for that matter most men have only encouraged that stereotype. In the same context, ‘marital rape’ is something that most men in this nation do not understand and accept. Its time men and the society take a woman’s No for a No!
(i)
That moment when you scan me From head to toe in public At a bus – stop, market, or walking on the roads When your piercing gaze Is fixed at me like a hungry eagle
When in fraction of seconds You examine my vital stats And your penetrating eyes Are brimming with a profound craving To have a slice of me When your irrefutable lust Engulfs your countenance completely
(ii)
When you are a colleague, an associate A co- worker and a little more than an acquaintance
When in my casual interactions A few giggles over coffee And in those hearty conversations You fancy that I am available
When you expect me to be Forbearing to your sexual advances And let you have a good time
(iii)
When you start admiring me A little more than before When you entice an alliance And when you profess love
When you yearn for intimacy And want me to surrender When you wish to touch and feel me all over
When you intentionally ignore All my non- verbal clues To assert and uphold The utmost significance of physical pleasures
But then When I am not yet ready I am not eager I am not willing And I demand time To exude and reciprocate with conviction But you cannot decipher the Unsettling concoction of my skepticism and affection
(iv)
And When you once for all procure me Post that legitimate ‘matrimony’ When for the world It is but an eternal bond
When you vehemently Consider it your basic privilege And proclaim your right as a partner When you question the connotations of Something called ‘permission’ When you reckon with precedence That you have indeed acquired me When your wish is supposed to be my command At least on the bed
When my ‘consent’ is not imperative But your need is grave and befitting When you defy my feeble denials When you grab and assault with full force In order to relish me And when savoring my flesh is by all means legitimate!
When you conveniently endorse the stereotypes And demean saying “A woman’s No is often a Yes”
When your quintessential manly vigor Cannot stand a woman’s NO That moment When the life partner in you Metamorphoses into a brutal beast And when ‘marital rape’ is merely a phrase for you But doesn’t parallel a crime
That is when you Cannot discern my invisible afflictions That is when you mercilessly smother A woman’s self esteem And belittle the purpose of her existence
That is when all your synonyms of love And all its mighty expressions Turn into nothing but trash!
However, It’s time I renounce your patriarchal reasoning Defy your decrepit practices With the loudest roar
And here I go “When a woman says NO She only means NO”!
Header image is a screenshot from the movie Daman
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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