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Who are you to preach to a mother how she should breastfeed her child? Public or private, it's entirely her choice - so let's stop preaching.
Who are you to preach to a mother how she should breastfeed her child? Public or private, it’s entirely her choice – so let’s stop preaching.
It’s been over a week since my social media timeline was flooded with ‘opinions’ on how a mother should breastfeed. Ironical, yet interesting. Well, this piece of conversation was fuelled by the cover page of a regional magazine that exhibited a women feeding her newborn, baring her breasts. Now, I will not go on with my utter doubt if that was at all a stance on women’s empowerment or just a mere voyeuristic marketing gimmick to scale up the sales of the magazine. Breasts sell, let’s not forget that!
Perhaps, what I was more railed up with were the numerous opinions that floated across stating why this is acceptable or why it is not at all. Men, women, learned and frivolous, everyone had an opinion about the same. It didn’t matter really whether one understood the repercussions of what they said and what any statement may lead to. Surprisingly, what also didn’t matter was, what ultimately the lady, the mother who is breastfeeding wants and how she would like to go about it. Again, the whole saga boils down to one mere fact, “Are women entitled to have their own choices or not?”
Who are you to preach to a mother how she should breastfeed her child? The articles that I have been reading are all about why and how a lady should feed her child. Whether she should be hiding her boobs under a veil and feed or she should bare it out in the open. While some feel that baring the breast out is kind of an empowerment (which I find a tad silly), there are a few who feel that a woman should not do that and hide herself under a burqa, perhaps. Ask me, I would say both are cringeworthy. Both these notions are telling stories of how botched up the mindset of people are. And if you ask me why I am possibly so against these kind of ’empowering’ gimmicks, let me tell you that.
Of all the countless articles that I have been reading, no one ever says, “Let the woman do whatever she wants to.” Let her have her own choice. Let her decide for her own self what she wants and how she wants it. Instead, the whole brigade was busy preaching, what is right and what is wrong. My problem with this whole saga lies just there. I said it earlier too and reiterate again, a woman has all the right to make her own choices. What she does with her body and her mind, is entirely her prerogative. You have absolutely no right to decide on her behalf and preach this dogma in the name of empowerment. Trust me, the whole ethos of empowerment falls flat and waddles in a puddle the moment you start telling her – “Look, you need to do this.”
Ask me… and I would be the first person to say that I am least comfortable in feeding my child baring my breasts in public. I would anytime look for a private space. Well, does that makes me a less empowered woman in any way? Is baring yourself a sign of empowerment? I understand that women are being shamed for breastfeeding in public. To them – go to hell! But, my wrath will be equally vehement against those who advocate for breastfeeding publicly and women empowerment in the same loop. I take this in the spirit of sheer indignation. Because at any point of time, what matters most is that a woman has the right to choose for her own self. If you are preaching, stop right there. That’s it.
Breastfeeding and the surrounding bedlam is just a small dent on the big picture. If you closely look at it and think about it, it is again one of those loose ended patriarchal practices where a few supposedly enlightened souls are trying to control what a woman should do. Well, this has to change. The change begins here. The empowerment begins here. The fight for choice begins here. A woman has the right to make her choices, and I guess the buck just stops here. Right here.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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