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Why is everything with being a woman so complicated? Why is she only "allowed" things that should be a right? Why can't she choose herself?
What does it mean to be a woman? Is it to tread cautiously throughout your day, most of the time? Or is it to overthink every gesture of kindness bestowed upon her?
Why are things done for her? What is expected in return? Is it about being pretty? Or is it about appearing less intelligent? After all, isn’t ‘pretty and dumb’ the stereotype?
Is it about doubting yourself from time to time, or is it to frequently find oneself at crossroads? Should she prioritize herself or those around her? Should it be her happiness or theirs? Can’t it be a shared happiness?
Is it to juggle five things at a time? Or is it to drain yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically until you can’t take any more? Or is it the trait that they don’t break easily? Or is it the fact that they don’t complain; they just endure? Or is it the fact that they are disappointed in people because they didn’t do the bare minimum, we expected them to do?
Is it to not speak your heart out until you are asked to?
Is it to endure as much as you can and not to bother anyone with your pain, since your pain is much less than others’? But, can pain truly be quantified?
Is it the fact that everyone has problems, so why bother anyone with yours?
Is it about always being there for everyone but yourself?
Is it about helping everyone but yourself?
Is it about understanding everyone but yourself?
Is it about feeling everything and empathizing with everyone but yourself?
Is it about having strong feelings but hiding them from everyone?
Or is it about extending a helping hand to others whenever they need it, but never to herself, since she doesn’t need help? She can endure it, right?
Why is everything with being a woman so complicated? Why can’t she choose herself? Why is it hard for her to understand herself, to help herself? She’s “allowed” to feel all the emotions; they shape who she is. They make her a vulnerable being in this sometimes-inhumane world. They make her, well, her. Why is it so tough for her to see that? I wish I could make her see that.
Image source: a still from the film English Vinglish
I am Ekta Sati, born & brought up in a very peaceful and beautiful city, Rishikesh. I am an admirer of nature and loves to spend my time on the riverside and in the forests. read more...
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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