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Both parties seem to have committed despicable acts but at the end it appears that Amber Heard is paying the price for not only her indiscretions but for his too. Are we calling this justice now?
Like most people in India, I too was not interested in the Depp vs Amber trial, it all seemed too silly – pretty people fighting over who said what. But unfortunately for me, my Facebook page insists on showing me articles and short videos on the most irrelevant topics.
Take for instance the British royal family, I am convinced that the royal family spends copious amounts of money on social media. Why else do I see articles on not only the Queen and her immediate family, but Princess Diana and some random duchess and duke and whatnot?
However, it is not Her Royal Pain that we want to talk about here, but rather about Team Depp who skilfully used social media to paint Depp, a man 20 odd years older than his wife, as a gullible victim.
We have all heard of the famous “outrage of modesty of a woman” but this case was built on the premise that “outrage of reputation of a man” is 100 times worse than the outrage of modesty of any woman.
If Depp’s lawyer listens carefully she can hear the collective sigh of relief from men from all over the world. #MeToo had a moment in the sun, but the boys tweaked it to #MenToo and it’s not going anywhere now.
It is a fact that Depp consumes alcohol and drugs in large amounts and has had violent episodes repeatedly. This is in fact the very definition of the term “abuser”, so how do we go from this to a verdict that awards him 15 million dollars on an Op-ed article that did not even mention his name?
The verdict brought a sense of deep foreboding and the image that comes to mind is of Amber Heard as June and Camille Vasquex as Serena Joy from the Handmaid’s Tale. It might be a lazy comparison and nowhere in this case does Amber Heard come out spotless, but that does not mean that she is not entitled to a fair trial.
The hate from the misogynist sections of social media (both men and women) makes her a victim all over again, and for this there is a no court she can appeal to. Depp’s PR team have completely turned the public vote against her, and it is beginning to dawn on everyone just how good of an actor Depp really is! He may have been the perpetrator of a crime in one scene but cut to court, he was the very embodiment of victimhood.
Depp is a brilliant actor and might be a decent human being on most days but there is no way he can say that he has overcome all his demons as evidenced by his multiple stints of rehab. His rock ‘n’ roll lifestyle of blackout-inducing drug binges, trashed location homes and detoxification regimes shows an unstable mind.
However, it is Amber’s bipolar disorder and histrionic personality disorder that we are fixated on. Histrionic personality disorder (HPD) is a mental health condition marked by unstable emotions, a distorted self-image, and an overwhelming desire to be noticed. By this definition everybody on social media has HPD!
#MeToo came as a tsunami and receded just as quickly, but #MenToo ambled along and is now sitting comfortably in our midst. It has appointed women as its handmaidens and guards, who chant “Boys will be Boys” and find lost and confused teenage boys in 58-year-old men who take no responsibility for their actions.
Indeed #Mentoo is a giant leap for Men!
Roopa Prabhakar describes herself as a mother, a working woman, a closet feminist and blogger. read more...
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She would serve everyone fresh food and serve herself the stale rice and curries from the previous meal. Some days after finishing the leftovers she was so full she would not even be able to even taste the fresh food.
When I married the first time, my MIL told me that during the Navratri the lady of the house should not eat stale food. ‘Gharatlya bai ni shila khau naye’ — in refined upper caste Marathi.
I was just 26, eager to please, not versed in patriarchy or feminism, and it seemed like a positive thing — respect for the goddess in woman.
But soon I realised she spent the remaining 356 days of her year finishing leftovers. And that I was expected to do the same.
We say that we live in modern times and talk on subjects like feminism, supporting your loved ones, encouraging them to follow their dreams. But how many of us can really say that they actually do that?
We live in a world where there comes times in everyone’s life when one has to make choices which will leave a long term impact in not just their life but on the lives of those attached to them.
Giving the ones you claim to love the freedom and space to make their own choices and the wings to fly is not only the right thing to do but sometimes its also the thing they need the most; without having to face the ‘guilt’ of living the life they want.