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Patriarchy is bad for women, yes. But patriarchy is bad for men too! Fathers who do not know how to express their feelings, suffer!
We have come to recognise that patriarchy hurts women in so many ways, from depriving them of education, fulfilment of dreams and their full potential, to more drastic problems like domestic abuse and rape.
But patriarchy hurts men too. Just like patriarchy forces women in to domestic roles, it pushes men away from having close emotional ties with their family. Men are expected to be the bread winners and take on authoritarian roles with little room for softness and emotion. Honest communication and expression of vulnerabilities is seen as a sign of weakness in men. This makes it difficult for many men to openly express affection for their children, even though they may feel great love for them.
This poem is about the barrier created by a patriarchal society that, sometimes, makes it difficult for a father to communicate his love for his daughter.
Of Fathers And Daughters
The day she was born,
his joy knew no bounds
But his happiness,
could find no sounds.
He knew not how to hug
He knew not how to kiss
He knew not how to be
Affectionate with little miss
When she succeeded,
he experienced pride
But in her,
he could never confide
He felt her pain,
when he saw her suffer
But his shoulder,
he could not offer
When she left home,
he knew he would miss her
But he couldn’t
bring himself to tell her
He wanted to ask,
how she was coping
Instead he asked
What she was studying
They talked about
Einstein, Bradman and Sartre
But they never could share
a heart to heart
Patriarchy imposes useless and harmful restrictions on both men and women, curtailing their freedom, confining them to specific roles they may or may not be well suited for. It is time we break free of the of the cage of patriarchy so everyone can play to their strengths independent of their gender.
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