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Are Women Loved For All The Wrong Reasons?

Posted: November 15, 2014

Women are taught to serve everyone else, except themselves. If you have wondered why most  women feel that the world is biased against them, here is a list of answers. 

Times may have changed, things may have changed, the whole perspective may have changed… perhaps, life may have changed. But this change is so little, and for so few. For a whole large number, the story remains the same. And here’s the story of love, appreciation, and value of women, yet again. Who says women are not loved, appreciated, and valued enough?

Women are loved, pampered, and appreciated a lot when they act dumb. Women are loved when they keep on pretending that they don’t have a mind superior to their counterparts. They are loved when they say “yes, I exist only for you, and only because of you.” They are loved every time they surrender to the wishes of others.

They are loved and valued and appreciated for sacrificing their lives, time, money, interests, hobbies, and most of all, their careers. They are loved when they make everybody else the priority of their life but themselves. They are loved when they eat last, when they sleep less and last, when they stop feeling for themselves, and don’t spend time for themselves. They are loved for cooking and spending most of their lifetime in the kitchen.

They are loved when everybody else in the house finds their things in place (even without keeping them in place on their own). They are loved for understanding others’ needs, and not having needs themselves. They are loved for not complaining, not countering, not arguing.

Women are loved for controlling their anger and frustrations. They are loved for unlearning their rights, and not missing to fulfil their duties towards all. If at all they are loved, they are loved for speaking soft and sweet, and for holding the bitter truths within. Women are valued for devaluing their lives. They are appreciated for not appreciating themselves. They are liked for not liking themselves. They are loved for remaining confused throughout their lives.

Women are valued for devaluing their lives.

They are loved when they say they don’t know what they love the most… they are loved for the pretended, fabricated “innocence” despite being clear, smart, decisive, intelligent. They are loved for feeling physically weak and seeking a shield. They are loved for living a totally unacknowledged life.

Women are loved for covering themselves and keeping a veil over their mind, soul, and heart. Women are loved for keeping a veil over harassment and exploitation. Women are loved for staying silent against domestic violence and abuse. Women are loved when they don’t ask for logic.

Women are loved for not questioning, while they are questioned for all of their lives. Women are loved for not saying No. Women are loved for taking all the responsibilities – beyond their limits and competence. Women are loved for not making themselves the centre of their lives.

Women are loved for not rebelling, for covering the evils of others. Women are loved for being ready to be blamed.

Women are loved for being delicate, introvert, and yet, sloggers.  Women are loved for not rebelling, for covering the evils of others. Women are loved for being ready to be blamed. They are loved for surviving the relationships despite their abuse and exploitation. They are loved, appreciated, and valued for unconditional urge to have a home and making it the basis of their lives. They are loved for remaining financially dependent. They are loved for being available all times. They are loved for being vulnerable and getting victimised.

Women are loved for they keep waiting, they keep waiting for everybody else to understand their needs. Women are loved for not uttering their desires. They are loved for killing their ambitions and sacrificing their dreams. Women are loved for living someone else’s desires, ambitions, and dreams.

Women are appreciated for all the balance they keep despite of the whole imbalanced behaviour against them. Women are loved for surviving the suffocation and condition themselves accordingly. Women are loved for not demanding the life of a human being. Women are loved, appreciated, and valued for all the wrong reasons.

This post was first published here.

Pic credit: Image of hands reaching for help via Shutterstock.

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