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After all, marriage means marriage only, be it for a man or woman. Then why does everything changes only for women, and not men?
The other day when I went for some checkup at a hospital, my details were asked. After saying that I’m a married woman, they asked for my husband’s name and mentioned on it as the wife of. While in the next counter, the details of a male patient is also being noted just like me and they have asked him for his father’s name and written as the son of.
Though I didn’t started any discussion with them at that time, I wondered why is it so, that my identiy shall be with my husband’s name whereas a male person elder than me, though married is identified with his father’s name. I wanted to ask him why he didn’t asked me for my father’s name or asked that person for his wife’s name, just like the way he asked me for my husband’s name.
Does being a married woman alone made all this difference? Marriage happens between two people, a man and a woman, not just a woman getting married to a man. Man getting married to woman or woman getting married to man, both are same. After all, marriage means marriage only, be it for a man or woman. Then why does everything changes only for women, and not men.
People call me as feminist for asking the same. Feminist in a negative connotation. But why is it so that being feminist is seen negative way. I’m not a man hater or someone who supports only women or someone who always speaks against men. I’m just asking, if anyone who see feminists as some negative people or as man haters, can give proper reason or explanation for the differences created just because of gender, woman.
As read somewhere that, there are no specific rights for woman and men separately. Human rights are women’s rights and women’s rights are human rights, once and for all. I hope at least now people will understand this and hope there will be a world where people need not fight for their basic rights which are being denied based on gender.
Image courtesy: A still from Udanpirappe
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