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When a marriage is not a necessity to ensure the security of a relationship and such a relationship has seen at least 5 winters, I would like to call it a Romantic Commitment.
What happens after we die; a line of thought says, we lose all kinds of existence, like, we are here today and not ANYWHERE tomorrow. Super scary to me. But well the intent of this article is not to delve into those mysteries.
Another line of thought believes that post death, our bodies see the dust but the SOUL remains. And that idea, has given a lot of ‘weight’ to the soul. One of the implications of the potential existence of the soul is the importance of soul mates.
Answer to the first question is ‘I don’t know…maybe, maybe not’. And to the second question is ‘Yes!’.
For the sake of this article and to help build my conviction in this matter for the sake of all the believers out there, I am going to adopt the belief that ‘Yes! A soul mate does exist.’
A vast majority of us do believe that soulmates do exist, maybe not throughout our lives but at some point in our lives.
The Oxford dictionary which describes a soul mate as ‘A person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.’
Bam! goes my initial idea of a soul mate! So I do not need to be romantically involved with ‘The One!’ Really.
I am not a person who can be convinced easily, so I shall continue my investigations and introspection towards finding the answer.
I think, for starters, a soul mate should have the following qualities:
There can be a lot more to the above list, which I do not know as of now, however intend to get to as I delve into this further.
Either it was my mom’s genetic code, the chick flicks/romance in the movies or stories like Cinderella, and the ardent belief in the existence of Prince Charming, is core to my being.
A good part of my life I have believed in the existence of a Prince Charming. That Prince Charming and ‘Soul Mate’ are supposed to be one and the same person.
But then, life hit me. And then I started questioning my ‘core’.
I would say Romantically Committed and not Romantically Inclined, as inclination does not take much. Especially during the years of the youth.
Marriage or Wedlock is a contract, and hence to fulfill and live the terms of this contract, one has to base a relationship on a bunch of practical bullet points.
The couples who fall into the Romantically Committed bucket, are they soul mates? I wish I knew! But let me try to put my ideas in words, so that I can reach a conclusion.
These couples can live together, do activities together, raise kids together, make decisions together, and have conversations with each other.
Do they completely understand each other, maybe not?
Are they absolutely selfless in their interactions with each other, Ummmm…..
Do they always need words, sometimes as long as essays to express their needs and feelings, maybe, and if so, what’s wrong with that! After all that is why language was invented right?
The question here probably is, Can you live up to the standards of society, fulfill the expectations society thrusts on you and still be soul mates?
Would it be easier to find ‘The One’ and live with him/her, if we lived lives absolutely, completely, wholly on our own terms.
What void does a Soul Mate fill? Why do we need one and do we really need one? What is the connection?
Relationships form a super important part of our lives. After all we are ‘social animals’; some more social than the others.
Our physical, moral and emotional sanity depends upon the people we have around us…Hence Relationships!!!!
Relationships do have conflicts due to countless reasons.
Inability to understand each other leading to misunderstandings
Inability to satisfy emotional needs, one way or both ways
Ego
The list to these conflicts is endless.
Hence, what if, we come across a relationship which has ZERO conflicts.
Maybe when the two individuals understand each other completely, and to some extent share a common view towards the higher values of life – spirituality, core political inclinations, the don’ts in life and stuff like that defines the core of a person.
They may not need to love the same sport (or any sport for that matter) relish the same food, have the same taste in clothes etc. I would like to believe that they can have completely opposite tastes, in ‘worldly’ matters, but that would not impact their peace.
Soul Mates survive thick in Contradictions.
How?
They potentially have the capacity of tuning themselves to each other’s likes and dislikes without having to change themselves.
They can engage in conversations which might not interest them, but are willing to be open to learn the other’s perspective.
They may hold the same religious faiths or different, but their route to spirituality would be the same.
Their commitment towards each other is selfless and the relationship is based on ZERO terms but sole presence of each other in their lives.
Dealing with each other does not result in Ego conflicts under any situation.
It allows us be the person who we truly are, at that point in time”. Why the ‘point in time’ is important? Because like everything else in nature, change is constant with Humans too. We are constantly changing.
And the Soul Mate since the start of association till the association lasts, never feels the pinch of that change.
Well, unfortunately, we humans are a stickler for control. We have to plan our lives; we thrive on our need to control every event in our lives. We want the best – for us, for our kids, for our family etc.
And time and again, life proves to us that the Remote Control, might lie somewhere, if ever, but it is not in our hands.
Within the constraints of such a life, I think ‘hunt’ for a Soul Mate is futile.
We need life to take its path, lead us to people who are meant to be; and if ever a certain association over a period of time makes us feel complete, fill that void and connects with us at a level deeper than any other association has…Lo and Behold, tag Soul Mate.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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