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How much more gender based violence can this country tolerate, and what needs to change if there has to be a step towards safety?
Present-day masculinist, gender based violence in India is an outcome of the preservation and reproduction of hegemonic patriarchal social institutions such as the Indian family, the judicial system, the media, educational institutions etc.
Almost nine years have passed since Nirbhaya was brutally gang-raped in a moving bus in India’s national capital. It’s been a little over a year since a doctor was gang-raped and murdered in Hyderabad. And, four months have passed since a 19-year-old Dalit girl met a similar fate in Hathras, Uttar Pradesh. Yet, nothing has changed.
Nirbhaya’s parents routinely called out politicians and the ‘system’ for failing its people on the issue of justice. In a 2019 interview, Nirbhaya’s mother, Asha Devi said, “People have no faith in the system. All the governments have failed us.”
According to this livemint article, sexual assault is one of the most under-reported crimes in India. In 2019, close to 88 rapes were officially recorded daily. Out of the total 32,033 reported rape cases in that year, 11 percent were from the Dalit community.
In the domestic sphere, marital rape remains unrecognized as a crime. A 2005-06 Ministry of Health and Family Welfare, Government of India report showed that about two in five married women, from the ages of 15 to 49, had experienced various forms of violence in their marriage, slapping being the most common of them all. The streets in the public sphere, the space that rapes in the public eye like Nirbhaya, continues to be unsafe.
Even in the workspace, an extension of the public sphere, women have to face sexual harassment, casual sexism, and misogyny on a daily basis. The #MeToo movement was somewhat successful in drawing public attention to this problem. In a popular 2012 United States study of sexual harassment, researchers McLaughlin, Uggen, and Blackstone discovered that even female supervisors routinely experience ‘contra power harassment’ – harassment of women by men in junior positions. If a similar survey is done in India, the result might be the same.
Crimes against women contribute to about 10% of all crimes in the country. Women who file complaints against their perpetrators face routine humiliation and ostracization from the law, family, and peer groups. Most of the time, they aren’t even believed. Many cases go unreported because of the shame and stigma associated with the victim.
Khushi (age 30), who identifies as a transgender woman said in a 2018 interview: “When a transgender woman gets raped in this country, cops first mock her, saying she doesn’t have the organs to be sexually assaulted; and what follows is a barrage of injustices – perhaps greater than the first one.”
One often wonders, why are rapists not deterred from committing such gruesome acts of violence? How do they rationalize such acts? A lot of this has to do with how we raise our boys. Sociologists Sanjay Srivastava and RW Connell call it the making of hegemonic masculinity.
In an interview with The Atlantic, psychologist and author Michael C. Reichert discusses his book, How to Raise a Boy. He makes the case for raising boys in an environment with strong and healthy ties with one’s family and community. Doing so enables them to resist entrenched cultural norms of masculinity and enhances their emotional awareness from a young age. The peer pressure among young boys to sexually objectify women and girls is a toxic trait that needs to be done away with especially here in India. Sadly, little is being done to address this issue.
Despite the unanimous public outrage that follows in the aftermath of rape cases, I am afraid that until the Indian State and the people of India collectively call out the systematic misogyny, toxic masculinity, and patriarchy, we will never see an end to gendered violence. It’s no surprise that we still seem to be continually stuck at ground zero when it comes to the safety for women, children, and transgender people
Image source: stills from the films Pink, Ranjhanna, Thappad, and Kabir Singh
Kanav is, as of June 2021, pursuing his Master's in Development from Azim Premji University, Bangalore. He identifies as queer for personal and political reasons and can be contacted via https://www.linkedin.com/ read more...
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People say that women are the greatest enemies of women. I vehemently disagree. It is the patriarchal mindset that makes women believe in the wrong ideology.
The entire world celebrates International Women’s Day on March 8, 2024. It should be a joyful day, but unfortunately, not all women are entitled to this privilege, as violence against women is at its peak. The experience of oppression pushes many women to choose freedom. As far as patriotism is concerned, feminism is not a cup of tea in this society.
What happens when a woman decides to stand up for herself? Does this world easily accept the decisions of women in this society? What inspires them to be free of the clutches of the oppression that women have faced for ages? Most of the time, women do not get the chance to decide for themselves. Their lives are always at the mercy of someone, which can be their parents, siblings, husband, or children.
In some cases, women do not feel the need to make any decisions. They are taught to obey the patriarchal system, which makes them believe that they are right. In my family, I was never taught to make decisions on my own. It was always my parents who bought dresses and all that I needed.
14 years after her last feature film Dhobi Ghat, storyteller extraordinaire comes up with her new film, Laapataa Ladies, a must watch.
*Some spoilers alert*
Every religion around the world dictates terms to women. The onus is always on women to be ‘modest’ and cover their faces and bodies so men can’t be “tempted”, rather than on men to keep their eyes where they belong and behave like civilized beings. So much so that even rape has been excused on the grounds of women eating chowmein or ‘men will be men’. I think the best Hindi movie retort to this unwanted advice on ‘akeli ladki khuli tijori ki tarah hoti hai’ (an alone woman is like an open jewellery box) came from Geet in Jab We Met – Kya aap gyan dene ke paise lete hain kyonki chillar nahin hain mere paas.
The premise of Laapataa Ladies is beautifully simple – two brides clad in the ghunghat that covers their identity get mixed up on a train. Within this Russian Doll, you get a comedy of errors, a story of getting lost, a commentary on patriarchy’s attitude towards women, a mystery, and a tale of finding oneself, all in one. Done with a mostly light touch that has you laughing and nodding along.
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