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Sex during lockdown is becoming yet another 'duty' for some wives. Husbands - stop! Having sex needs to be both partners' choice, and not just yours.
Sex during lockdown is becoming yet another ‘duty’ for some wives. Husbands – stop! Having sex needs to be both partners’ choice, and not just yours.
“My husband asks for sex now and then since this lockdown, and I have no choice to say no. I am tired and I request for an end this lockdown please”, she said, and everyone laughed. Until now, this had been considered a most wearisome problem according to our ‘cultured’ society and people were not cool with this one.
So now here we are in a lockdown, sealed. We cannot get out of our houses anytime we wish and this is the best thing to do, to be safe. Homemakers on the other hand are overloaded with household chores, in which they are hardly helped by the men in the house. The morning’s breakfast, then lunch, evening tiffin, dinner, cleaning house, washing clothes, fulfilling every demand rising each minute and much much more. To all of this, some husbands are adding one more duty, ‘sex’.
Your husband is not your boss, it’s not your job to have sex when and where he asks you to have it. Sex is not just about a physical closeness, it goes beyond that. It’s an emotion, a deep feeling that your mind, your heart, your body carries – it’s your choice too, it’s your wish too.
Even if your husband tells you, “Let’s do it now, I want it” – be aware that the sentence itself reveals his emotion, i.e. if the lockdown is full of sex without your consent, it’s completely wrong.
I want to know, is there any law in the cultural law book which suggests that a wife should surrender herself to the bed when her husband desires it? I agree that lockdown is making us feel bored and frustrated, but we are all in this together. And boredom, frustration or any other thing does not mean that a husband heighten his desires and demands it from his wife now and then.
Dear husbands, you need to understand that you are no one to decide for your wife. It’s her choice too. She cannot suffer for your desires because she has hers too. Having sex is every couple’s personal issue but when it becomes the personal choice of the man but not of the woman, how fair is this? It is the personal choice of the woman too.
Yes, you are an independent woman, you have your freedom, you take every decision except for the one of having sex according to your partner’s desire to have it now, here, again and again, each day, each night, anytime.
Dear ladies, just say no if you don’t want to. He is your husband but he does not own you. You should and can take your own decisions. It’s your body, your choice, your wish; sex cannot be unidirectional. Both partners should decide whether they want to, when and where etc. You can say no. There is no rule which stops you from saying this.
Having sex needs to be both partners’ choice, and not just of the husband or male partner.
Top image is a screengrab from the movie Lipstick Under My Burkha
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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