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It's high time we stop expecting women to let go of their individuality and dreams for the sake of others! Because no one is worth losing that for!
It’s high time we stop expecting women to let go of their individuality and dreams for the sake of others! Because no one is worth losing that for!
Often, marriage is described as a beautiful chapter in a woman’s life. Several women look forward to this day in their life. Because, post this, women are ready to unfurl their wings and fly into the unknown with a companion by their side.
Sounds surreal, doesn’t it? But just as this woman is getting ready to take off, she often ends up leaving something she has always had with herself.. She ends up losing her identity and individuality.
A few women are smart enough and notice this being left behind. So they hold on to it as they take flight. However, other realise that it is missing only after they have flown some distance.
A woman’s individuality can be as simple as the name- her father’s name which she has carried all her life.
Or it could mean her tastes- her choice of food, clothing, colour or even her choice in people.
Her individuality could also mean her behaviour, characteristics that make her her. It could be her voice for the right and wrong, her belief system, her opinions and dreams.
For her, taking permission to do what you once loved to do or change your tastes to match those of the other person. It could mean, letting go of dreams for the sake of the other person, putting up with belittling comments from them, and unable to stand your own ground. Now, these are all instances where you may feel like you’re losing or have lost your individuality.
And once lost, it is very difficult to get back this individuality. But once women retain or get back their individuality, they are labeled as loud, brash, forward or even crazy for having voiced their opinions.
These things make her doubt herself and make her wonder if she needs the individuality that comes at the cost of her mental peace and harmony. Very rarely does she realise that if she loses her individuality she loses it completely. She should hold onto herself and not let anything or anyone dim her spark or what makes her her.
Yes, the effects of retaining your individuality may be high. But, my dear women, it is definitely worth it. For, you only have YOU to stick up for yourself in the days of despair.
Hang in there and remember to take yourself along wherever you go.
Author’s note: No matter what, don’t change your true self and dreams for anyone or anything. Hold on to your ‘muchness’ always.
Picture credits: Still from Bollywood movie Dil Dhadakne Do
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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