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Tapsee Pannu's new movie Thappad's trailer was released earlier today. A trailer with a thousand emotions, here's what we feel about it!
“Just one slap…. But you cannot hit me,” says Taapsee Pannu in her new movie Thappad. A trailer with a thousand emotions, here’s what we feel about it!
The trailer for Taapsee Pannu and Anubhav Sinha’s new movie Thappad was released earlier on Friday. After watching the trailer, I felt like the things we often brush under the rug by talking about it nonchalantly can be the trigger to start domestic violence.
Yesterday, the poster for the movie came out and you can Taapsee’s face looking like that of someone being slapped. I was curious what a Bollywood movie with a name like this could mean. However, after watching the trailer, I realised just how powerful it was.
The movie is about a happily married couple who love each other and swear that they will stay with each other forever. But something happens that pushes their boundaries so much they stand on the edge of getting divorced – A slap. At a party, the husband raises his hand on his wife after a fight.
The society, like always would say it’s a small matter. It was just a slap after all it could’ve been forgiven and forgotten, this happens sometimes when a person is angry and it should be forgiven. Right? That is exactly how one would talk. But ask the woman whose husband hasn’t hit her face but her self esteem. Would that husband have forgiven her if she did the same to him in public?
Our society would say – look at that woman who is hitting her husband, she has humiliated him in public, she is shameless. That is what happens, what we are taught and some of us also participate in thinking these regressive thoughts. Ask yourself once if you have and its not surprising if your answer is yes because that is what our society teaches us.
In the movie both Taapsee’s mother and her mother-in -law tell her, “Let it go, a woman should learn to adjust.” Wow, such thoughts!
Relationships are fragile but why is it the woman’s responsibility to hold it together? It is acceptable for a woman to get hit by her husband. Her friends, her family and relatives will convince her to forgive him rather than support her. After listening to it all even the wife starts doubting herself.
But she knows that even though she is alone, she is right to fight it. When she asked to give him another chance she says, “You invested so many emotions into your company and you couldn’t control yourself, I invested my whole life on you. How do I move on from this? I don’t love you.”
But I agree with Taapsee’s character “His first slap didn’t land but that slap reminded me of the things that I was trying to put behind me as normal when they weren’t.” The wrong can’t be right for someone else, it can only be wrong.
Just a few months ago, Kabir Singh ruled the Box Office. Now this can be seen as the anti- Thappad. In the movie, even when the guy hits his girlfriend, she doesn’t take it seriously and goes back to him in the end.
The director, made a controversial statement, “When you love a woman really deeply and you don’t even have the freedom to hit her then I don’t feel like your relationship isn’t as deep. A slap is sometimes an expression of your love.”
His statement was backed up by many people who believed that it was just a movie. While others criticised his stance saying people are inspired by such movies to do the things that they normally don’t.
Your opinions can be on any side of this but everyone’s self esteem comes first for them. If a relationship doesn’t understand your importance then you shouldn’t give it as much importance either.
Yes, its one slap… but you can’t hit me.
The movie releases on February 28th but meanwhile, you can watch the trailer here.
The post was originally written in Hindi and translated by Yugantika. You can read the Hindi post here.
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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