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There is no such thing as perfect parenting. But, we can follow certain practices and make our children good human beings.
Of late, I have been feeling that parenting is the most difficult yet miraculous task in the world. It is not only about the biological relationship, it is more about the intricacies of raising a child and shaping him/her into a better human being.
Good parenting involves a lot of consistency, discipline and a lot of self control. It is a responsibility one needs to take sincerely. That doesn’t mean life becomes serious and boring once you become a parent. But, it is a fun activity undertaken seriously wherein you find wonderful results in the form of your children whom you are proud of.
The one who looks at it with a positive outlook, as a journey to be relished, will gear up to take lots of benefits out of that process because it’s not only about nurturing a child but also growing with them into a better person.
Here are some of the things which parents should do to create a healthy environment and to raise happy children while enjoying their parenting journey:
Parents should try to build a strong culture to have meals together. There would be a possibility that one or the other may at times might miss the meal. But, that should not stop you. Eating together helps children to understand the importance of sharing, importance of being together and will also build a sense of care for each other while they observe the way parents serve other members of the family. Eating together is like meditation and this builds a strong connect within the family and develops a sense of gratitude.
I don’t say that praying should be a demonstration but it should be a culture so as to build a beautiful emotion for God. It should be celebrated everyday to invite God to be a part of the family and to help them in any point of crises. Children should also be taught to feel thankful for whatever they have. Children will not do what they are told to do but will do what they see their parents doing.
If praying together becomes a part of a routine, it’s a cherry on the cake. However, praying and offering gratitude to God should be a lesson taught with all love and affection. This will enable your children to see goodness around and they would definitely shape up into positive individuals.
It is rightly said, “Let your child see you doing a good deed instead of you telling him or her to do it, and the little child shall one day grow up to become a real kind human being”.
Showing respect is not a filtered job, it is a way you deal with not only human beings but also with other elements of the nature. Filtering means respecting on the basis a person’s caste, creed, gender, financial status etc . If children see a righteous conduct irrespective of these filters, they will inculcate a similar attitude.
Parents have to remember that respect is a two-way street, if you want to get it, you’ve got to give it. What we sow, so shall we reap. The qualities which we inculcate in our children shall come back to the parents in some or the other way. Also its important to remember that “the way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” So, we should watch our conduct and the way we speak to our child.
It’s true that parents often teach their children about respecting others. But, they often forget to teach them about self respect. Children often are left confused wherein they fail to understand that respecting others doesn’t mean hurting or wounding their own self respect.
Also while teaching the worth of self-respect, parents have to understand a very critical demarcation between self respect and ego. Often it so happens that while teaching the theory of respect, either children are made to compromise on their own respect or they are made to learn to have a big ego which is devastating. For this, parents should read a lot of spiritual books to develop their inner strengths, maintain their self respect and abandon their egos which their children would see and imbibe.
It is essential that parents should know the importance of being independent. By being independent, I don’t mean only being financially independent but to be self-sufficient.
If children have the habit of doing things on their own, they can manage in any situation whether it is cooking, cleaning, washing and so on. By this I don’t mean that parents should sacrifice their own leisure time in doing stuff just to advocate self sufficiency. But, encourage them by doing chores around the house whenever possible, to enable children to initiate such activities and doing things on their own as much as possible. This will not only help them to be independent but will also make them more innovative and solution oriented.
Children shouldn’t be made to feel that money is an everlasting resource which is freely available. Children should be told about the importance of money and should know the hard work parents do to earn each penny.
It is often seen that parents refrain from sharing their problems with the children. Whether it is financial situation or health situation, I personally feel that to make your children responsible human beings, parents should share their life situations with them.
Consequently, children would not only be there for the parents in the time of crisis but it will also encourage them to open up with their own experiences and seek advice. This also creates a great bond between the parent and child.
Not only physical health but mental health is important too. When children see their parents working on their health, eating healthy, following a discipline, following a right regime, getting involved in activities like reading, mental games, music and other hobbies, they are encouraged to initiate things which are appropriate for their physical and mental health.
It is often seen that the kids of parents who follow discipline and are particular about time, become more responsible and disciplined. This in turn is good for not only their future relationships but also for their professional life.
Nobody is perfect. No family is perfect and no child is perfect. Parents are imperfect too. Parenting is a journey and one gets to learn so much during this journey. It is the intention which matters and if the above mentioned points are genuinely followed with all the right intentions, your parenting journey would be beautiful.
Just do Your Best. “There is no such thing as a perfect parent”.
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