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Supreme Court's judgement on homosexuality has not just changed the lives of homosexuals, but their loved ones as well. Here is a sister's apology for not being there when needed the most.
The Supreme Court’s judgement on homosexuality has not just changed the lives of homosexuals, but their loved ones as well. Here is a sister’s apology for not being there when he needed her the most.
The news on the screen flashed, “Homosexuality is legalised in India.” As I watched activists jump for joy and dance in excitement upon hearing the news, I felt a tug at my heart and found myself misty eyed and emotional.
My immediate reaction was to message my little brother and share the news with him for celebrating the verdict. As I absorbed the news, about all the delirious celebrations from across media, my mind went back to the day when I heard family members laughing at him and calling him a ‘Chhakka’.
The memory stung me and I said sorry to my little brother in my head. He had to hear all that at an age when he was still figuring out who he was. And I also asked forgiveness for the times I could not stand up for him. I was conditioned to do deal with these situations in a certain way.
There were times I bullied him or made fun of him too, our fights were like any other brother and sister. But there were some instances which required more empathy from my end. I forgave my younger self for not knowing better.
I wanted to apologise for all those times that he felt lost, lonely and threatened by people or situations just because of his orientation. I hope this judgment would make things better for all the younger boys and girls who are going through the same pain an trauma as him.
I know it was entirely your battle and your experience. I can never even begin to understand as I was the so called perfectly ‘normal’ child of the family. You were named the ‘black sheep ‘ just because you were still trying to figure things out in your head and the only way you could react was by lashing out or thinking of jumping down from the terrace to get your freedom. I apologise for everyone who could never understand what freedom you wanted and why.
You were the one who knew fashion and make up better than me. You were the one who took care of our mother, night and day until the day she died, when I couldn’t be there. You were the one who took care of each family member after that. I apologise for every person who came close to you, so that you could confide in them, but later made fun of you.
Now, when I look at the news channels, I realise that the battle has just begun. But there are so many lost souls and broken hearts that needs to be tended and vindicated. But I see a beautiful future ahead of you, the possibilities of what you can achieve in life have just become endless after the recent news.
All we need right now is a whole lot of love and light in our lives to pave way for a beautiful tomorrow. For not only us but our future generations who need to be taught that all kinds love is beautiful.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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