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From invasive personal questions in job interviews to sexual harassment, workplace sexism in India isn't subtle but shining like a beacon. #WomenOnTheMove
From invasive personal questions in job interviews to sexual harassment, workplace sexism in India isn’t subtle but shining like a beacon. #WomenOnTheMove
Workplace sexism — it rises as insidiously as asking an invasive personal question like “given a choice between career and having children, what would you choose” in a job interview to your boss/colleague casually placing his hand on your shoulder when you are trying to show and explain something. When you react, you are chided for being “overly sensitive” or “blowing things out of proportion”.
Work and career, for Indian women, in the past few decades have become instrumental. They are now a crucial part of their identity. Women are now venturing into diverse fields; fields that were previously seen and dominated by men. And as more and more women steer their way into these unexplored areas and make unconventional career choices, the modern workplace in India is gripped with a striking gender inequality.
That said, what leads to sexism?
Well, Indian men have always have had a huge sense of entitlement, that they have exercised uninterrupted, over the decades and still are practicing. This sense of entitlement is bestowed upon them by the patriarchal undercurrent that flows in the country. In the name of safety, Indian women have been stripped off their basic right to public space and relegated to the confinements of their houses. They have been made to believe that stepping out of the house is the ‘man’s’ work; a woman’s place is and should be within the ‘safe frontiers’ of the house.
But as more and more women defy this ‘social diktat’ and step out into the public space, the entitlement to public space of the ‘alpha’ male is under threat. A smart, intelligent, career-oriented woman instantly becomes an aberration. So much so, that ‘being ambitious’ for a woman, whether married or unmarried, often invites pejorative remarks.
Last week, we had our weekly #WomenOnTheMove chat over at Twitter, where we discussed how workplace sexism affects women, how to counter them and share some personal, first-hand experiences. This is what they said.
Women have encountered sexist questions in job interviews sometime or the other. Some questions were not only irrelevant but downright weird.
How long will you be unmarried? https://t.co/WxEWG4LgFC — Imp’s Mom (@ImpsMom) March 15, 2017
How long will you be unmarried? https://t.co/WxEWG4LgFC
— Imp’s Mom (@ImpsMom) March 15, 2017
@womensweb #WomenOnTheMove A friend of mine was asked her husband’s salary package. God Only knows why — Sapna Katti (@dreamysap) March 15, 2017
@womensweb #WomenOnTheMove A friend of mine was asked her husband’s salary package. God Only knows why
— Sapna Katti (@dreamysap) March 15, 2017
But of course! ‘Are you single’ and when I said yes, ‘aren’t your parents worried?’ #womenonthemove https://t.co/Zg98CPSSF1 — Aparna V Singh (@editorsahiba) March 15, 2017
But of course! ‘Are you single’ and when I said yes, ‘aren’t your parents worried?’ #womenonthemove https://t.co/Zg98CPSSF1
— Aparna V Singh (@editorsahiba) March 15, 2017
@varshabagadia @womensweb True, if u r unmarried they ask u when do u plan to get married , if u r married they ask u abt babies — Sakshi Dutt (@sakshi2487) March 15, 2017
@varshabagadia @womensweb True, if u r unmarried they ask u when do u plan to get married , if u r married they ask u abt babies
— Sakshi Dutt (@sakshi2487) March 15, 2017
“You’ll be living with your parents, so you won’t be paying rent no?” https://t.co/xWmi3gZhBA — Naomi Barton (@naomi0_0barton) March 15, 2017
“You’ll be living with your parents, so you won’t be paying rent no?” https://t.co/xWmi3gZhBA
— Naomi Barton (@naomi0_0barton) March 15, 2017
You are not married. Then why did you take a sabbatical ? This is after I had mentioned that my mother was unwell. https://t.co/MBTYECtCmI — HellFyreFrown (@ChalOldMonkLa) March 15, 2017
You are not married. Then why did you take a sabbatical ? This is after I had mentioned that my mother was unwell. https://t.co/MBTYECtCmI
— HellFyreFrown (@ChalOldMonkLa) March 15, 2017
R u going to marry a doctor& continue in the profession? Or become a house wife ? https://t.co/GLNsIhGE2k — the doctor writes (@goldinketc) March 15, 2017
R u going to marry a doctor& continue in the profession? Or become a house wife ? https://t.co/GLNsIhGE2k
— the doctor writes (@goldinketc) March 15, 2017
@womensweb @SanskariStree “are you married, asking because we want to assess your stability.” I was gobsmacked! — Gopika (@gopikamisra) March 15, 2017
@womensweb @SanskariStree “are you married, asking because we want to assess your stability.” I was gobsmacked!
— Gopika (@gopikamisra) March 15, 2017
From enquiring about the marital status to when single women plan to get married to will they move cities if required or if married, will their husbands agree to move cities if the job calls for, just curious whether men also face similar questions!
@womensweb u hv been married for 3 years, when r u planning to have kids ? #womenonthemove — Sakshi Dutt (@sakshi2487) March 15, 2017
@womensweb u hv been married for 3 years, when r u planning to have kids ? #womenonthemove
@womensweb A1 would your husband move cities? Has he got another job?Who will take care of the kid? #WomenOnTheMove — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) March 15, 2017
@womensweb A1 would your husband move cities? Has he got another job?Who will take care of the kid? #WomenOnTheMove
— Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) March 15, 2017
@womensweb ex colleague of mine was not fit acc to ex TL coz she was married.fortunately higher authority dint care his sexist view — Dipanwita Das (@darkoholic9) March 15, 2017
@womensweb ex colleague of mine was not fit acc to ex TL coz she was married.fortunately higher authority dint care his sexist view
— Dipanwita Das (@darkoholic9) March 15, 2017
@sakshi2487 @womensweb Exactly. Why such sexist questions? Mens’ lives too change after marriage or a baby. That is never relevant for them. — Varsh (@varshabagadia) March 15, 2017
@sakshi2487 @womensweb Exactly. Why such sexist questions? Mens’ lives too change after marriage or a baby. That is never relevant for them.
— Varsh (@varshabagadia) March 15, 2017
If you bring up your marital status, it is a ticking time bomb. Especially if you’re divorced. While none of this should matter at all ever. https://t.co/BC0qc1hGAS — Vaishnavi (@Vaishax) March 15, 2017
If you bring up your marital status, it is a ticking time bomb. Especially if you’re divorced. While none of this should matter at all ever. https://t.co/BC0qc1hGAS
— Vaishnavi (@Vaishax) March 15, 2017
@womensweb are you comfortable working long hours. You will not have any problems from family /home. Comfortable with travel? — SWAT (@swatianandsingh) March 15, 2017
@womensweb are you comfortable working long hours. You will not have any problems from family /home. Comfortable with travel?
— SWAT (@swatianandsingh) March 15, 2017
Why do men interrupt, especially when a woman is speaking? Well, this is the direct trickle down of the ‘entitlement’ syndrome, passed on to them, by the patriarchal Indian mindset. The only way to put them in their rightful place and not allow men to hijack the conversation is to take the control back into your own hands.
@womensweb A2 I held up my hand one day telling a guy “wait let me finish “and he was dumbstruck #WomenOnTheMove — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) March 15, 2017
@womensweb A2 I held up my hand one day telling a guy “wait let me finish “and he was dumbstruck #WomenOnTheMove
@womensweb A2 all the time so now I just talk first and I interrupt them. ” just to add blah blah” #WomenOnTheMove — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) March 15, 2017
@womensweb A2 all the time so now I just talk first and I interrupt them. ” just to add blah blah” #WomenOnTheMove
A2 trick is be the first one to talk. People are attentive and you have made your impression. It works. #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/lTfk5NWetc — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) March 15, 2017
A2 trick is be the first one to talk. People are attentive and you have made your impression. It works. #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/lTfk5NWetc
@womensweb A2 frsttime attndes dont feel i’m worth an ear.But thn im not offnded.I pen my recmendt’n&next meeting is abt mytake onthematter — Deepa Govind (@DeepaGovind) March 15, 2017
@womensweb A2 frsttime attndes dont feel i’m worth an ear.But thn im not offnded.I pen my recmendt’n&next meeting is abt mytake onthematter
— Deepa Govind (@DeepaGovind) March 15, 2017
@womensweb all the time. It is considered polite for women to be good “listeners” and it is okay to cut them in the middle. — Aarti Nair (@rtnair91) March 15, 2017
@womensweb all the time. It is considered polite for women to be good “listeners” and it is okay to cut them in the middle.
— Aarti Nair (@rtnair91) March 15, 2017
Sexual harassment in the workplace is no secret. But with laws in place, is it easier for women to come out in the open and talk about it; ensure strict action against the perpetrator and securing justice for themselves? We find out.
A3 you definitely hear it a lot more but you also hear the defensive response & victim blaming. NO it’s not easier #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/RvaeVKpJWr — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) March 15, 2017
A3 you definitely hear it a lot more but you also hear the defensive response & victim blaming. NO it’s not easier #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/RvaeVKpJWr
@womensweb A3. Though still a long way to go but yes women are speaking up more against sexual harassment now than before. #WomenOnTheMove — RitwikaM (@RitwikaM) March 15, 2017
@womensweb A3. Though still a long way to go but yes women are speaking up more against sexual harassment now than before. #WomenOnTheMove
— RitwikaM (@RitwikaM) March 15, 2017
Easier to speak up but not necessarily believed. #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/ZqoQJ5p5yE — Seema Taneja (@SeeTan96) March 15, 2017
Easier to speak up but not necessarily believed. #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/ZqoQJ5p5yE
— Seema Taneja (@SeeTan96) March 15, 2017
A4 sexism that prevailed since ages. It’s gradually changing now but have a long way to go to bridge the gender gap https://t.co/NhUKHnIVKZ — Akshata (@Awestruck_Aks) March 15, 2017
A4 sexism that prevailed since ages. It’s gradually changing now but have a long way to go to bridge the gender gap https://t.co/NhUKHnIVKZ
@womensweb some of it can be attributed to that, but it is also because of less women available to take these top positions #womenonthemove — Sakshi Dutt (@sakshi2487) March 15, 2017
@womensweb some of it can be attributed to that, but it is also because of less women available to take these top positions #womenonthemove
@womensweb I guess sexism, general conditioning and social norms all contribute to it. — TravelingNoodles (@anjujayaram) March 15, 2017
@womensweb I guess sexism, general conditioning and social norms all contribute to it.
— TravelingNoodles (@anjujayaram) March 15, 2017
@womensweb it’s a combination of mindset, sexism , societal and family expectations #womenonthemove — Sakshi Dutt (@sakshi2487) March 15, 2017
@womensweb it’s a combination of mindset, sexism , societal and family expectations #womenonthemove
@womensweb yes a lot of times women get left out by the big boys club — Vidya Deshpande (@vidyadee) March 15, 2017
@womensweb yes a lot of times women get left out by the big boys club
— Vidya Deshpande (@vidyadee) March 15, 2017
@womensweb there is a general mindset that she won’t be able to give her the best as she will be interrupted by her family commitments — SWAT (@swatianandsingh) March 15, 2017
@womensweb there is a general mindset that she won’t be able to give her the best as she will be interrupted by her family commitments
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