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We are often defined by our relationships, but should a failed relationship become a cause for death?
A few days back, I read the news of the suicide of a young TV actress. The report filled me with immense sadness. This news is the latest in the series of similar incidents in the last few years. Young, beautiful girls who are also fairly successful in their careers ending their lives while they are in their prime.
A person has many lives attached to them. There are parents, siblings, family, and friends – an intricate web of relationships which each person has around them. When anyone takes the drastic step of suicide it affects every person connected to them.
If tabloids are to be believed these young girls suicides have been due to failed relationship, and that is the most shocking aspect of these incidents. It is true that relationships require a lot of investment of emotions, effort and time. If they fail, the heartbreak is a painful experience. But this experience is also important as it teaches us the lesson to move on.
There are no perfect relationships in this world, as each person have their own shortcomings and flaws. Hence when two individuals get together there is bound to be friction and disagreements. With the course of time usually couples compromises and adapt to each other. However at times the differences are too many to overcome then it’s in their best interest to move away. It helps us understand the kind of person we are best suited to be with. It is definitely not a reason to kill oneself.
I think the main issue is the new consumerist word we are living in today. Everyone wants to have a picture perfect life that they see in lifestyle magazines. The young generation is desperately striving for the glamour and glitz that is marketed today. This includes the latest designer clothes, the labelled bags, international holidays and a partner which makes you look like the golden couple.
What needs to be understood is that the glossy exterior does not guarantee a strong core. The search should be for true love, trust and respectability. Without these ingredients any relationship is doomed.
At times we may get trapped in a wrong relationship with a possessive, manipulative partner. It is essential to identify such a situation and cut off from the destructive partnership at the earliest. Instead of getting sucked into the vortex of depression and dread, one should take control of their lives.
I know it is easier said than done. Possessive partners tend to also be obsessive and the entire break-up may become messy, but it’s certainly not impossible.
It is the challenges and unpredictability that keeps life exciting and interesting. We should enjoy these ups and downs, not be bogged down by them.
This life is a beautiful gift give to us. It should be lived to the fullest and enjoyed. If due to any external factor, you face negative thoughts then get away from the source of such negativity. If you feel despair or helplessness, there are many creative pursuits that can help you overcome this depression such as music, dance and art.
Above all there is no harm in taking counselling or talking to someone who can help you deal with your emotions. Understand how to love yourself, for you are a precious gift of god.
If you or anyone you know is feeling suicidal, here are some of the helplines available in India. Please call.
Aasra, Mumbai: 022-27546669
Sneha, Chennai: 044-2464 0050
Lifeline, Kolkata: 033-2474 4704
Sahai, Bangalore: 080 – 25497777
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