Anupama writes a letter to her 18-years old daughter. Read what she has to say.
I wanted to scream and slap the man, but I couldn’t, as my mother’s words rang in my ears, “Don’t mess with men/boys who misbehave with you…”
…do we teach our sons to respect women, speak up when a girl is teased or abused in front of them, and not to tease them or touch them without their permission?
We teach our daughters to wear ‘decent’ clothes, cover themselves from head to toe when they go out, not to go out after dark, not to talk to boys, not to go out alone and so on. But do we teach our sons to respect women, speak up when a girl is teased or abused in front of them, and not to tease them or touch them without their permission?
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“I have a theory for eve-teasers and rapists in our country. In our country, girls/women are taught to be always covered from head to toe, so that no skin shows. So males also see covered ladies all the time. Hence, whenever they see even the bare calves and arms of females, they go crazy.”
I completely agree with this theory. If the concept of the female form is always a “mystery” then the slightest unveiling of that mystery will unleash pent-up frustrations. That is still not an excuse for men to behave the way they do, but it explains a lot.
If men and women could mingle more freely in society in consensual situations, I believe incidents of harassment would decline, at least a little. In the meantime, since dressing conservatively doesn’t seem to be making much of a difference, we need to be more defensive, i.e. with pepper spray or a safety pin like you mentioned.
In addition to pepper spray, a long metal pin (9 inches) with a very sharp point would cause severe injury. Is there an agency which supplies free of charge tools of defense and if so I will support with a donation
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