How To Find Inner Strength

Posted: December 21, 2014

Our lives are rarely fairy tales. For the tough days, here’s a roadmap to find inner strength.

We all have our good days and bad days. Good days are wonderful, and pass by in a jiffy, while the bad days drag you along and don’t end as quickly as you want them to. Sometimes, it is really hard to cope with bad days, and your inner strength gives way to all the negativity inside.

Life is not easy! Every day we face different challenges at work, at home, in our relationships, with our kids. No matter what, these negative situations are unavoidable, and will come up now and then. These situations are out of our control, but what is in our control is how we deal with them. Our attitudes and way of living generally dictate how we face these challenges. It’s us who can decide if these situations will consume us fully, or instead, inspire us to change. It takes inner strength to face these situations and turn them into positive episodes.

These situations are out of our control, but what is in our control is how we deal with them.

This strength comes naturally to some, and some fight for it throughout their lives. Some may have been encouraged as children to stand up for what is right, and have their own voice and opinions, while others might have pushed their inner strength to the back burner after years of being too nice to everybody and going with the flow.

I believe I am a nice person; I am good with most of the people around me, though I am not much of a talker (so some people do mistake my attitude and all that). But I believe I am a very strong person inside, and people who know me will vouch for it. There are tough times and experiences in everybody’s life – the type and intensity may vary, but we all do experience some hardships while we are growing. Inner strength can be cultivated using such experiences.

Inner strength is within every one, it’s just that one needs to find, hold, and practice it to make it a meaningful part of your lives. To find your inner strength, first of all, you need to come to terms with who you are and learn to value your contributions to this world (however small they are – they are your contributions). Trust your inner strength, and it will only grow and make you a stronger person outside too. You will be able to fight and face your problems and come out stronger than ever before.

The following pointers can help you in your journey towards inner strength:

Accept yourself

This is the first and most important step in this journey. Accept who you are, learn about your strengths and past mistakes. The biggest challenge in this discovery towards inner strength is to be at peace with yourself. You cannot be strong enough to face the world unless you have stopped fighting with yourself.

You cannot be strong enough to face the world unless you have stopped fighting with yourself.

Forgive

At times we re-live some painful moments of our lives just because we cannot forgive. The feelings of anger, despair, self-pity start eating us from inside, and make us all the more negative. No matter how painful the memory, it is already in the past and you cannot do anything about it but learn from it. Think about it and forgive. Don’t think twice about forgiving another person or yourself, for that matter!

Spend time with people who treat you well

Inner strength is all about knowing that you are valuable and deserve to be treated well. Being in the company of positive people who treat you well, are fun, creative and helpful, will not only reaffirm your own value to yourself, but also keep you happy.

Build your confidence

Focus on your successes, and work your way towards what all you can accomplish. Remember – no one is perfect, and there are some irritating flaws in everybody. As I said before, count your blessings and value your contributions.

Stay positive

Positivity needs some cultivation, and I am still working on it, to be honest. When life is hard, learn from that difficult situation and look for blessings in disguise. Remember that having a positive attitude involves being generous to others. So start listening to people, and valuing their struggles.

Learn to relax

I feel the strongest when I am relaxed. I don’t know how religious you are, but meditation and being spiritual makes my days less hard on me. Try cutting down on that stress and find out ways that help you – be it going for a run, meditating, taking a long hot bath etc.

Find a listener

We all need someone to whom we can take our problems. It might be your mom, partner, friend or a therapist who can offer you a new and fresh perspective. Getting it all out of your system makes all the difference, at times. And no one should have to struggle with everything on their own. Your inner strength also needs support from outside at times.

Apart from all this, I feel social media has made our lives so much of a competition. It’s good to know and be connected with your long lost friends, but to some people it has become the measure of their life’s success. You may not have reached the same stage of life as your friends have, you may still not own your dream house or have children, but that doesn’t mean that you won’t reach there. It is important to remember to switch off and stop questioning yourself, because like you, your friends also share their best things on social media.

Good luck with this journey, my friends, and I sincerely hope this article is able to help some of you at least!

“He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the universe”- Marcus Aurelius

Pic credit: Image of a woman meditating via Shutterstock.

 

 

 

I have been working in financial services for about 7 years and have recently moved

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  1. anitha vijay kumar -

    What I just needed to read at this moment !! But I had a question … Why then do we give up so easily and not stay put ? Why do we feel we are not strong sometimes ?

    • Because we are human Anitha, and it’s okay to feel that way sometimes… that’s how we find inner strength and that’s where our loved ones need to take notice and take care of us.

  2. It’s true that inner strength needs to be cultivated. Interesting points on how to find peace and strength within.

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