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I have a daughter and I have blogged earlier on what are the advantages of having a daughter and how I am being told to have a second child. Now, this second child has to definitely be a boy….I HAVE to ensure it okie! Othewise, do you know what will happen?
– There is will no one to carry forward RD’s family’s name
– Who will take care of us in our old age?
– Whom will RD relate to?
– The family needs to be ‘complete’ (hum do, hamare do, ek ladki, ek ladka)
– There will be someone to light our prye when we die, phew!
– Someone has to be there to take care of R when she gets married and goes away…who will stand for the ‘mama stanam’ when her child is getting his thread ceremony done or getting married?
– There has to be at least one happy occasion in the house before R’s marriage na, that’s the son’s thread ceremony!
– Who will R tie ‘rakhi’ to and who will protect her in her teenage years? Which is why I should not delay having a second child so that the age difference is not much
– R can stay back late nights when she grows up so that her brother can take care of her and bring her back from wherever she is
blah blah blah blah…Uff I’ve seriously had enough!!!
To the many people who are so worried here are my answers
– R carries her father’s family’s name as much as the hypothetical son that I will carry in future, just as I carry my parent’s name as much as my brother
– We need to take care of ourselves at our old age. We need to plan our finances whether or note we have a son or a daughter and BTW..I am serious about the thought of putting money in an old age home and staying there when my child(ren) don’t need my self
– RD can relate to his daughter, he can relate to playing rough with her, he can relate to making her sporty, yes, he can do that with a girl child!!
– The family is already complete and if I have another child who is a girl, it’s going to be equally complete – thank you so much for your concern on completed families!
– My daughter is hale and hearty and am sure will be capable enough to light the prye, thank you so much!
– Errr..We hope to educate R so that she can definitely take care of herself..her marriage or non-marriage is her choice..and for ‘mama stanam’ for her kids..she has enough cousins and friends even at the age of three, whom she looks upon as brothers
– Yaa, right..I would rather NOT have any such happy occasions, if they are meant to waste 1000s of rupees inviting people you can’t even relate to and all they do is comment!
– R can tie ‘rakhi’ to who ever is her sibling and to her cousins and friends. And I plan to make her strong enough to take care of herself!
– R can stay back late nights even if I don’t have a second child, because my parents brought me up in such a way that I never needed my elder brother to come and ‘pick me up’ and I plan to make R strong and independent enough to handle herself and when needed, her younger sibling if any
Any more other questions?
R’s Mom is a working mother in Mumbai trying to balance work, home and baby. Learning the ropes of new motherhood and wanting to spend more time with baby. Running to catch up with read more...
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