What were the Guwahati molestors thinking? And what do the families of molestors think? A mother wonders about her daughter's safety.
…..you know the family of the men who are accused for the Assam incident?
Yesterday morning, I was suffering from severe cramps in the stomach, and I was wondering why has God been giving me so much pain, when I suddenly thought about that innocent girl who wanted to enjoy the evening out with her friends…
I first read about the Assam incident (note how I call it incident) and I didn’t want to read about it further. I didn’t watch the video. I didn’t have the guts, I am ashamed to admit. It just left such a dirty taste in my mouth, that I didn’t want to accept reality.
But yesterday morning, in pain, I wondered what has been going through the mind of that girl who may perhaps never look at an evening with joy ever?
In India, I have realised, it’s a truth. Women are not safe. You can give me hundreds of reasons why we are safe and yet I will tell you we are not safe. So scared I am, that I wonder whether I can bring up my daughter in this country at all. Well, you can argue that any country that way is not safe. Maybe, may be it’s not, but I wonder which country lets so many men attack an innocent girl and TAPE it on video.
Enough has been written, said, argued, counter argued on the incident. My post is not to talk about it. My post is not even to talk about women’s rights or feminism.
As a mother and a woman, I am just wondering, what is in their mind?
The minds of the men who are accused? Are they repenting? Are they thinking how on earth could I behave in such a manner? Are they wondering how their actions would not be done by even the wildest of animals? (Wait, why am I insulting animals here?)
and the minds of the family of the men accused? Have their families disowned them or have they taken them under their wing like an indulgent Indian parent? Are they embarrassed to admit they are related to those guys or are they just carrying on with their lives as usual?
I am thinking about the family of the girl. What must be going through their minds? Why did we let our child go alone? Were we wrong in letting her dress the way she was dressed? Was there anything in our upbringing which failed her? Why did it happen to our family member only? Why why and more why?
It just leaves me so upset.
What happened was horrid. What happened scared me as a mother. and what happened should never happen again.
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