Why look for a bride with a 'professional degree', if you know she is to kowtow to your patriarchal norms, toe the line, and change herself completely to adapt to your ideas of an ideal bahu?
With marriage come a lot of expectations, especially from a newly wed Indian bride. Dressing up and looking a certain way, as well as fasting for the 'long life' of a husband are some.
Why should a girl leave her parents’ home after wedding? Couldn't the give and take of relationships be based on choice rather than 'tradition'?
We're the worst of hypocrites, worshipping the divine feminine as a goddess, and at the same time expecting our women to live lives like these,...
There is still little awareness of queer culture in India, so it isn't surprising that we have no idea of the many 'happily married' Indian wives who identify as queer, but have no option.
'Patriarchy' is not just a word; it's a feeling that haunts most modern women all around the world, even more, when they are living in a society that has each and every traditions and social customs based on patriarchal norms.
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