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We are often our worst critics, judging ourselves too harshly and damaging our confidence. Here are 5 attitudes to adopt for a healthier frame of mind!
This topic is very close to my heart, and I have been meaning to write about this for a long time. I have been meaning to find ways of how to make gray, depressing, bad days into more manageable and happier ones, and also find out ways and promises that would help me lead a better life!
There are a couple of tricks that I have been trying out for sometime, and they seem to be working a bit. It’s not easy to have control on all your days and what you do, but it is important to get a hold of yourself on such days so that they don’t feel that tough, and you don’t make a cycle out of them. As they say— ‘self-pity and negative self assessment come naturally to human beings” (Well, that’s my own quote, don’t take it too seriously!)
Here are five tricks that I have been trying out:
It is very easy to be down and have all the Monday or winter blues. But have you ever stopped and appreciated life? I saw a rainbow when I woke up today, and it was such a beautiful sight and start to the day. Well, this doesn’t happen everyday, and there are many times when you wake up to a broken toaster, or no milk in the fridge, or on a super-stressed out day when a presentation has to be made in front of the board. But being grateful for all the good things and times in spite of all the negativity can help you heal from inside and have a better day, if not a better life!
There is research showing that self-acceptance is key to a better life. When it comes to you being treated with respect, it is of utmost importance that you treat yourself with brilliant standards. And these standards in turn qualify how people are going to treat you. Give yourself an A grade in your own report card and others shall follow soon.
Try smiling a little more everyday, and also try to smile at one stranger every day, and look how warm that makes you inside. Smiling is such a simple thing that can so easily uplift that bad mood, make you feel more connected, and help you make your days brighter.
Try to fit in the things that you love to do in your to-do list of the day, especially on the days when you are feeling gray and low. It might just be a small thing- like a pedicure or buying a nail colour that you really wanted or a quick trip to the gym or just having a scoop of your favourite ice cream. All of this can make the rough day easier for you. And in the end, what are you living for? All that hard work and tough grind should lead to something good, right?
All this is easier said than done, especially when rough times hit you, but don’t be too hard on yourself. Making yourself feel better is not an easy task, and the more you fail, means the more you are trying. Don’t give up! Make each day a happy day!
I see judgemental people around all the time, and by saying that I am being judgemental myself! Having my own pretences is one thing I have been meaning to take out of my life, and by this I don’t mean that I am criticizing people all the time, but this means I want to work on observing people and observing myself, and being ‘okay’ with that. More than for anybody else, I think we are our own worst critics, and are really hard on ourselves. Such negative thoughts take away our confidence and degrade our abilities. So, be kinder to yourself.
This post was first published here.
Pic credit: Image of a happy woman via Shutterstock.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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