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"When you don't get something that is promised, you call it a scam, right Mam? I feel marriage is a scam, especially in India."
When I have teenagers in my class I have to be more of a friend than a mentor to them.
In my last class, I heard a group of girls giggling and teasing one of them. Upon asking the reason they shared that the one who always attempted crime and murder mysteries is now drawn to write romantic poems; Valentine’s Day being round the corner, all the teasing was happening. I enjoyed that light moment for a couple of minutes and took my class ahead.
After my class, I managed to strike up a conversation with the same girl. So, this girl is a Colleen Hoover fan. She deeply believes in love, but she does not want to get married.
“When you don’t get something that is promised, you call it a scam, right Mam? I feel marriage is a scam, especially in India. I have seen my uncle’s marriage break because of the expectations and family pressure. I see my mom either adjusting and sacrificing or cribbing about her marriage. What I read in books is not in sync with what I see around me. I see my parents saying “I love you” to each other, and then I think, do they even mean it?” she paused, “Okay Mam, not sure why I just blurted out in front of you! Gotta go, bye Mam!”
This girl left, but her thoughts remained with me. The clarity of thoughts is intimidating! And how true is that, right?
I tried to recollect my thoughts on this incident, and, to be frank, they were no different! The only thing that was missing was, I thought I would be the changemaker and chain breaker; but I did not realize when I got used to the default settings… so much so, that I forgot to customize them for myself!
I mean, we Indians have hyped married life to a level where we have changed its whole essence.
Adjusting, compromising, and sacrificing are all part of a married life, as far as they are being done by both parties equally. It is a lifetime partnership right, all the investments that go into making it have to be shared, and then the joys will multiply. A new bride coming into the house can be considered a DAUGHTER or DAUGHTER-IN-LAW and that depends upon the way the family receives and accepts her.
Hence, Gen Z and Millennials deciding to stay single, in one way, is a very mature decision. It is about avoiding all the baggage and trauma that follows and choosing to live life on your terms. If you want them to believe in the institution of marriage and happily ever after, then show them the same picture in real too. They won’t trust you until the spoken words and actions are in sync!
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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