Men Who Keep Saying Not All Men… Why Do You Outrage?

I'm tired of this unsafe, non-supportive, abusive society - which is because of men. Those who claim to be 'good' men and say 'not all men' ,what are you doing about this?

I am tired.
Tired of men who say
“Not All Men”
Of course not all men.
But ask yourself-
Why are you outraged?

Why do you need me
To hand you a certificate.
A certificate you can frame
And hang above your desk
So you can look at it often and say,
“I am not like other men.
I am different”.

Why can’t you show you are different?
By speaking up
By calling out every gaze that lingers longer than it should
Every casual brush of a stray hand
Every sexist remark
Every attempt to mansplain
Every example of misogyny.

“If I did that, I would be doing nothing else”,
You tell me.
Exactly! You will be doing nothing else.
Now think of me

That is what I face every day
Every single day
Every hour of every day.
The constant scrutiny.
The judgment
The unsolicited advice.
I face it.

You have a choice-
You can speak up, or remain silent.
You will still get your shiny medal-
‘Not All Men’.

I do not have a choice
I cannot hide my gender
I have to face it everyday.
I have to face you everyday.

And I am tired
Tired of fighting
Tired of having to explain myself
Tired of asking you to understand.

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Just tired.

Image source: a still from short film Juice

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Natasha Ramarathnam

Natasha works in the development sector, where most of her experience has been in Education and Livelihoods. She is passionate about working towards gender equity, sustainability and positive climate action. And avid reader and occasional read more...

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