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Nothing a woman is or does seems to be right in a misogynist world that finds faults with anything and everything... can she just be considered human?
A woman’s dilemmas
If I’m fat, I am a cow or a pig.
If I’m thin, I am a skeleton or a stick.
If I’m too fair, I am a white ghost.
If I’m too dark, I am an ugly monster.
If I’m tall, I won’t get a husband easily.
If I’m short, I won’t get a husband easily.
If I wear a saree, I am way too traditional.
If I wear a mini skirt, I am way too modern.
If I wear a burkha, I am way too backward.
If I wear a bikini, I am way too forward.
If I speak softly, I am a gutless wimp.
If I speak loudly, I am a boisterous tomboy.
If I am reserved in my talk, I am a stuck-up bitch.
If I mingle freely with everyone, I have no moral ethic.
If I am talking with my female friends, I am a gossip.
If I am talking with my male friends, I am a wanton tart.
If I want to study more, I’m too much into education.
If I quit my job for any reason, I’ve wasted my education.
If I’m single, why am I not married?
If I’m married, when will I have children?
If I have a son, when will I try for a daughter?
If I have a daughter, when will I try for a son?
If I have two sons, do I regret not having a ghar ki Laxmi?
If I have two daughters, do I regret not having a ghar ka Chirag?
If I love to cook, I’m building a negative stereotype of women.
If I hate to cook, I’m not woman enough.
If I’m working, I’ve abandoned my family for fiscal fortune.
If I’m a stay-at-home mother, I’ve sacrificed my dreams for dreary drudgery.
If I’m given a promotion, I’m buttering up the boss.
If I leave office on time, I’m not working enough.
No matter what I am,
No matter what I do,
I am questioned, I am thwarted.
No matter how much I wear,
No matter how much I bear,
I am scorned, I am doubted.
How long will this go on?
How long will I not be free?
I want to live my life my way,
But you keep on tying me.
Dear World, I am a human first,
So a human, please let me be.
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and I listen to her stories with the patience
of a chronicler.
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