Unlike In Gatta Kusthi, Will Indian Husbands Actually Encourage Their Wife’s Dreams?

Most Indian men still want a bride who is fair skinned, younger than them, less educated than them, well trained in household and daughter in law duties. Will they encourage her dreams?

I happened to watch a Tamil movie Ghatta Kusthi recently.

The hero of the movie is a 7th pass and is reasonably wealthy. He is shown to be jobless and on the lookout for a suitable bride. However he has two conditions – the words ‘unreasonable’ and ‘illogical’ to describe these conditions would be an understatement in my opinion.

He wants the woman he weds to have long hair that can be braided all the way down to the hip and also, her educational qualification should not exceed 7th std.

Forced to marry

The heroine of the movie is a wrestler and a graduate – not a stereotypical village belle usually portrayed. She is not willing to marry someone with unreasonable demands. However due to extreme pressure from the family she agrees. And how does she meet the hero’s demand? By lying of course!

The girl’s family lie that she had studied only until 7th grade and attach false hair to impress the prospective groom. They eventually get married. Unfortunately the girl buries all her dreams once she gets married and diligently fulfills wifely duties.

At one point, the cat is out of the bag. The husband comes to know she is a wrestler when she rescues him from the enemies. While on one hand he is shocked to find that her long hair is false, on the other hand, he is drowned in shame since it is his wife who drives away the enemies with her exceptional wrestling skills. That she is a graduate seems to drown the husband further deep. Ego clashes and disagreements that follow, push them far apart.

Thankfully, towards the end of the movie the husband realizes that all his preconceived notions about an ‘ideal wife’ are wrong. He apologizes openly and encourages her to pursue her dreams. The ending definitely brought some solace to my heart.

However, the movie made me think loud about our society as a large.

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In real life with a similar scenario, will husbands really encourage their wives?

Even in today’s world I feel the stereotypical definition of an ideal woman still exists.

Fair skin, soft-spoken, young, well-educated but a degree lower than the husband – the list is endless. And does every husband put his mental blocks and societal pressure aside to encourage his wife’s dreams?

In my own circles, I have seen affluent, well-educated parents of prospective grooms listing out several conditions. Some even go to the extent of strictly stating that the girl should sacrifice her career and passions after marriage.

Change in mindset is only possible when we as a society work towards raising our voice against such prevailing trends. Marriage should result in union of two hearts and mutual upliftment of each other rather than sacrificing and burying one’s dreams all together.

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