‘We Love You But Only On OUR Terms And Conditions’ Is Abuse, Not Love!

We say that we live in modern times and talk on subjects like feminism, supporting your loved ones, encouraging them to follow their dreams. But how many of us can really say that they actually do that?

We live in a world where there comes times in everyone’s life when one has to make choices which will leave a long term impact in not just their life but on the lives of those attached to them.

Do your loved ones have their rightful freedom?

Giving the ones you claim to love the freedom and space to make their own choices and the wings to fly is not only the right thing to do but sometimes its also the thing they need the most; without having to face the ‘guilt’ of living the life they want.

We say that we live in modern times and talk on subjects like feminism, supporting your loved ones, encouraging them to follow their dreams. But how many of us can really say that they actually do that?

My younger self would used to get so inspired and motivated by the stories of people achieving their dreams. I was so inspired by those being able to make their own life choices without any baggage.

Love cannot become oppression of our loved ones

But somewhere it never occurred to me that to be able to make your own decisions and choice in life is a truly big deal. I had assumed it to be a basic human right. So I may never be able to understand why living for your own self and happiness is considered a ‘sin’ even in this day and age.

There exists a very fine yet blurry line between love and oppression of a loved one. If you are loved without being oppressed too, then you are lucky. We must understand that something that involves chaos, drama and manipulation cannot be love, but that day is yet to come.

The world would  be a happier place if free will and freedom of choice were appreciated the way they should be!

Image source: a still from the film English Vinglish

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Doctor by profession...wanna be free spirit..always in search of fernweh...traveller by choice...feminist at heart...firm believer in live and let live... read more...

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