A Break Up May Feel Emotionally Brutal, But You Deserve Better Than That Toxic Relationship!

Although heartbreaking, leaving a toxic relationship is the kindest thing you can do for yourself. You owe it to yourself!

No one deserves to be in a toxic relationship. It may be time to walk away if you’re feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, or like you’re not good enough. Remember that you deserve to be happy and treated with respect.

Toxic relationships can often be hard to spot. They may start off seeming perfect, but the cracks begin to show over time. If you’re in a toxic relationship, you must realise that it’s not your fault and that you deserve better. No one deserves to be treated poorly or made to feel like they’re not good enough.

A parent child toxic relationship can cripple

As children, we are indulged and protected by those who harm us. We grow up in the fold, believing that what they do is how things work. We trust them and listen to their words without question at first because it’s just who we are: part of an institution that will always have our best interests at heart- until adulthood hormones kick into high gear and send us spinning off on our own two feet.

It would’ve been so easy for everyone involved if, instead, you had taken notice when your parents said something hurtful, interrupting them with “You don’t mean ____” while already heading out of the room.

Children who grow up with toxic parents often develop an inability to empathise, which is crucial in healthy relationships. Toxic people come complete with criticism and a lack of concern for others. They have no respect or compassion towards other humans – even themselves!

While this behaviour might seem inevitable at times, it can be overcome through understanding how your childhood shaped you into what you are today so that somewhere down the line, we won’t make these same mistakes again.

The abuse in a toxic relationship is not love

Love is a beautiful thing, but it can be exhausting. It’s hard to keep giving love when you’re in an unhealthy relationship where the other person doesn’t seem interested anymore or wants something from you because of their internal needs. It is as if we should have been able to meet those criteria; before being with them!

The truth about relationships isn’t always easy: some people will never change; others might take longer than expected. No one is perfect. Even when people promise to change, it’s hard for them to do so and make things better on their own without assistance from you or other outside sources such as family members who can help push them in the right direction. It’s because we all know how complicated this process of self-improvement can sometimes be!

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You are not responsible for your partner’s behaviour

Mistakes aren’t always an indication of who is bad or good. They can be confusing, and it’s easy to get caught up in the moment when someone does something wrong; thinking, if you’re happy with your life now – why would YOU want them changed?

We’ve all been there: waiting for our partner to change. The problem is, this isn’t a realistic expectation, because nobody can force another person into getting help or doing something they don’t want to do!

Staying in an unhealthy, toxic relationship delays the inevitable breakdown that will eventually happen when one party doesn’t take responsibility for their actions and seeks refuge within excuses like “they were trying” or “I couldn’t.”

Leaving a toxic relationship can be hard, but…

The end of a relationship can be brutal. There’s not a more depressing feeling than coming home after a long day and opening up your fridge only to find an empty dish waiting for you. You fling yourself onto the couch in defeat or guilt, whichever comes first.

Then there are always those pesky tears that won’t stop sliding down your face as you think about what might have been had things gone differently between you and your partner.

The first few moments, days, or weeks following a breakup can be crippling. For some people ending their relationship means losing an essential part of themselves, such as identity and support system. It is not always easy to find someone who understands what you are going through because those closest to you will often choose sides.

Go out there and seek your tribe

Either way, if this happens you are left with two options: stay home alone feeling depressed while watching TV all day long without any real interaction with others, or go out into public where there might be more awkward interactions than comforting ones.

You should take comfort in the knowledge that the pain and hurt will eventually disappear, and you don’t have to live through it alone. Time is your best friend. Also, knowing when and how best to ask for support will help make this transition in your life easier.

Consider finding professional counselling if feelings like grief or shame start taking over everything else after separation. These negative emotions won’t go away on their own -and they could eventually affect other aspects of your life, such as mental and physical health and school or work performance.

Moving on from a relationship is challenging. Understand that it would not be a clean break. Instead, it is a process. Take your time to grieve, follow your own pace, and don’t make hasty decisions. If you are unclear on how to move out of an unhealthy relationship, start by admitting to yourself that you are in one. Seek help from your tribe – people who care for you, love you, and fill you with positivity. Remember, it gets better over time. Your approach, optimism, and outlook on life will pave the way.

Image source: a still from the film Luck By Chance

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