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Womanhood is a roller coaster ride where a woman keeps altering her roles and ensuing so deep into it to get the best version of herself. She keeps on dragging her potential until she satisfies everyone around her that eventually lands her with great gratification.
This is all from her soulful heart who always wish for the betterment of others. However, isn’t it too much if that demands lots of sacrifices from her?
We all women need to understand the fact that before keeping others happy it is we who have to be happy first.
Why can’t the last piece of cake be a mom’s share?
Why the homemaker is bound to learn cooking if she isn’t interested?
Why it’s important that the woman in the house needs to feed others first and then she eats??
Why a woman has to quit the job or her passions for the sake of others?
Why her dressing sense becomes a censoring machine to judge her character?
A woman when trying to live for self has to face a lot of confrontations may it be from family or outsiders. If she works then she is a careless mom. If she doesn’t work then she isn’t an independent and supportive spouse. If she is living in a joint family then she is targeted by the woman as if she is a “bechari bahu”…If she lives in a nuclear family then she is targeted that she isn’t interested to be with in-laws. The list goes on and on.
So, the situation and setup will not change. What needs change is the change within us. Start living a little more for yourself. There is nothing wrong if people call you selfish for breathing free. We are living in a freed nation but still, we are caged by other people’s thoughts. That’s the captivity we need to break.
It’s okay if you hire a cook and are not willing to cook as the homemaker doesn’t necessarily mean the chef of the family. No regrets, please!!
It’s okay if you wear something that makes you feel confident and attractive in your eyes. You may be overweight but that’s the reason the fashion industry is aware of and every apparel comes in sizes. So, that’s made for you. Wear it and love yourself.
It’s perfectly okay if you leave your child with a guardian and complete all your passion and focus on your career. After all who knows your child and situation better than you. If you are confident about it, how does it matter what others think? Make your willpower strong.
It’s okay to live your life a little more for yourself. Do what makes you happy. Get away from this superwoman syndrome that keeps pressuring you and puts you on a guilt trip. C’mon it’s your life if you won’t live it who else will do it for you??
Image source: An image from Yeh Jawani Hai Deewani
Sagarika Sahoo has done MBA and M.Com and pursued her career as a lecturer. She had short term experience in IT companies as a finance professional as well. She is now a full-time read more...
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