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The author talks about the futility of arranged marriages in India. The money that is lavishly spent in these marriage ceremonies could well be used for a better purpose.
Marriages in India can be called a big ‘drama’, where your parents choose an eligible spouse for you. You are left with no choice, but to accept it. Supposedly, they know the best.
On your wedding day you have thousands of guests, out of which you would hardly recognize fifty. This is why I call marriage a drama. No one cares about who is getting married to whom. All they care about is – the clothes, jewellery and food. People even starve themselves before going for wedding receptions, to eat to their heart’s desire. And it gives them a chance to crib about the food that was served.
Sometimes, I really pity the bride. She has to leave her family,friends,dreams to simply get married and live with a stranger who is now tagged to be her husband. She most probably has no idea about his past or his present or how he will be in bed. It is a surprise package. The package would unravel after the whole arranged marriage fiesta is over.
Once this show gets over, you get a taste of the actual colors of your spouse. All you can do is just pray that he turns out to be what you had expected all your life. And if he doesn’t you just deal with it, because divorce is out of the question until you want to kill each other.The immaturity, insecurities, tantrums,mood swings-that is the actual surprise package.
Some women I know have had terrible experiences in the bedroom.Now this is when the surprise package turns into a shock package.There was this friend whose husband was never interested in sex.We all concluded he was gay,until one day she found a few stripclub cards in his wallet.
Now you are thinking.The money you spent on your wedding could’ve got you a house or perhaps a dream vacation. But, in our country,weddings are extravagant. People will not have money for their daughter’s education, but they’ll magically get the money if they have to get her married.
I am not saying that love marriages are better than arranged ones. But, I have seen instances where only the bride’s family pays for everything- from the wedding to the house where the couple would live.This pomp and show needs to end and people need to realize the value of money and how to use it wisely for their daughters. It could perhaps make your daughter a doctor and have her live her life on her own terms.
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My house-help asked excitedly, “I am going for wedding. Can you let me wear your red & black saree? To be honest I was stumped for a moment; I didn’t know what to say but I still said yes.
I lent a gorgeous saree to my house-help for a wedding in her family. Soon I stated getting questions if I would wear that saree again or if I was okay to be seen wearing the same saree my house-help was wearing?
We are all so conditioned to give our used clothes to our house-helps but are we okay to wear the clothes they were wearing?
A few days ago she came excitedly to me, “I am going for a family wedding. I want to wear your red & black saree, Ill wash and give it to you after the function. Please can you let me wear it?”
Sivaranjiniyum Innum Sila Pengalum (SISP) is an ode to all of the lost women, who could have been sports stars, singers, bankers, lawyers, doctors, just... happy, if they hadn't been enslaved in matrimony, and then forgotten all about.
One of the cool things about my mother was that she was an ace athlete and a champion sculler as a young woman in the 1950s and 60s. I only found out about this side of her a few years ago. I imagine her in a paavaadai dhaavani, taking on the mighty Kaveri river so many decades ago.
I recently watched a Tamil film anthology on SonyLiv that she would have liked to watch – Sivaranjiniyum Innum Sila Pengalum, (SISP) that has 3 stories of 3 different women – Saraswathi, Devaki, and Shivaranjini.
Like all the heroines in the anthology, my mother’s talents were sacrificed at the altar of matrimony. She pawned her gold medals and silver cups one by one to pay for expensive textbooks for us or a gift for a niece on her wedding, money for which she didn’t dare ask my father, because it was her niece… I remember how she caressed the cups and how her face hardened as she shoved them into her bag to take to the jewellers.
An arranged marriage, marital issues, sexual ignorance, and so much more - Netflix series Unorthodox tells a story many Indian women know well.
An arranged marriage, marital issues, sexual ignorance, and so much more – Netflix series Unorthodox tells a story many Indian women know well.
Unorthodox is a German-American drama series that is debuted on Netflix recently. It is based on a 2012 autobiography of Deborah Feldman, Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection of My Hasidic Roots.
Esty, a girl like you and me, has been told by her Grandmother (Bubbe) that marriage is beautiful and that it defines a woman’s life. Esty like any nineteen year old girl believes her. She is a loving and an obedient girl. Her marriage now is arranged with Yanky Shapiro. Are they compatible enough? Does Esty like Yanky? Well, who cares?
There are umpteen stories of mother in law - daughter in law problems. Why is this so when there aren't so many stories of father in law - son in law issues? The answer will surprise you.
There are umpteen stories of mother in law – daughter in law problems. Why is this so when there aren’t so many stories of father in law – son in law issues? The answer will surprise you.
Abhishek and Tara were a newly married couple. Tara was contemplating buying a car for her office commute in the new city she had moved to post her arranged marriage. Tara consulted her father who was a retired banker on car loan options. This offended Abhishek. He felt it was a direct insult to his competence. He believed Tara that should have relied on his knowledge to take care of this decision instead of reaching out to her father. He even called her father and told him that he could take care of his wife.
Unfortunately, Abhishek was quite useless in his financial suggestions, having no idea what he was talking about, and relying on his ‘mansplaining skills’.