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A daughter, a woman's life is not difficult but it is made difficult. Following the slogan 'Beti Bachao, Beti Padhao' is easy, but is that enough?
A daughter, a woman’s life is not difficult but it is made difficult. Following the slogan ‘Beti Bachao, Beti Padhao’ is easy, but is that enough?
A daughter is never asked what her wishes/dreams are. She is told and given a huge list of what she should expect and what she should not expect. What career she should choose so that it won’t bring hurdles in her married life in the future, and so that she can cater to the needs of her in-laws and husband.
She is never asked how she wants to live her life. She is told how to live her life based on the rules and regulations which are laid down by society.
A daughter is never asked if she is ready to get into a complicated stage of life; if she is actually ready to get married, which might bring a lot of changes in her life which she might not be mentally prepared for, and sometimes not even given a chance to get prepared for. She is told to get married and pressurised to get moulded into someone she never wanted to be. What about her dreams and goals that she first wishes to achieve before getting into a marriage?
Since ages women are fighting for basic rights and the issues they face. Yes, things are changing. But sometimes it feels as if everything is just as it’s been since ages. It feels as if everything is the same.
At the end of it, a woman has to kill a part of herself to keep everyone around happy, except herself. At the end of the day a woman lives with the regret and guilt of what if… what if she had had the courage to fight for her dreams and revolt against the traditions?
Sometimes it is easy to say, “Why didn’t you fight? They were your dreams, this is your life, revolt against them, fight for yourself, be strong!” But haven’t women been strong for long? Why can’t the society let them be? Why can’t every woman get what they want, how and when they want it? Why does everything have to be according to the traditions? And who made these traditions? Sometimes all these traditions and rules do not even make sense, not even from the “religion” point of view.
Why does every woman have to give a lot of herself and still made to feel as if she has done nothing? Why always a woman?
Why are daughters made to feel that they are under pressure to impress relatives so that they are always in the good books of people, and the word of mouth will help in “marketing” them for the grooms’ mothers looking for brides for their dominating sons?
Why do women have to suffer when they face divorce, when being a divorcee is not a sin, it’s just a failed relationship, and it’s okay for a woman who is a divorcee to move on, look for something better in life?
Why do woman who fall between the age of 25 to 30 find difficult to find a life-partner? Are they not human?
Why is the right to live one’s life according to their own terms and conditions taken away from a daughter, a woman, a human?
Why is the burden of being judged always on a woman? No matter what she does, she is always judged? Why? Why is being a woman, being a daughter made difficult?
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Trigger Warning: This deals with domestic violence, suicide, and violence against women, and may be triggering to survivors.
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