The Secret Life Of The Female Orgasm: Why Every Woman Should Have Them

Posted: May 15, 2018

The female orgasm is a secret being, much misunderstood, and yet not spoken about, mostly due to apathy towards a woman’s pleasure, but also a deep distrust and fear of female sexuality.

The enigmatic female orgasm

In high school my girlfriends and I giggled over many sex related jokes. We talked about periods and teased each other about our crushes, real, celebrity or fictional. But no one ever mentioned female masturbation. I don’t think anyone knew about it. I at least did not. I did not know about the female orgasm either.

When I did learn about it, I still could not bring myself to talk about it with my girlfriends. It seemed weird, possibly aberrant, because none of them had even mentioned something like it even obliquely. I finally found the courage to mention it to my closest friend, who I considered to be more worldly wise in these matters and she completely denied any knowledge of it and looked a tad appalled. So I never mentioned it again for a very long time.

Historically, female sexuality has been repressed. Even today, with all the progress made by feminism, it is still hard for women to open up about experiencing sexual pleasure. This informative article discusses the various attitudes towards female sexuality, and the female orgasm in particular, through the ages starting from medieval times and leading up to modern times.

Believe it or not, the precursor to the modern vibrator, called a hysteria machine, was built by doctors. They preferred using a machine, rather than their hands, to give their female patients a clinical orgasm, to cure them of so called hysteria, which seems to be something like sexual frustration. For those of you who have watched Boston Legal, season 2 episode 20, mentions the hysteria machine.

Myths, misconceptions and repression

In medieval times, female orgasms were considered essential for conception. After all conception was highly unlikely without a male orgasm.

But this flawed theory has led some people to claim, that if an alleged rape results in a pregnancy, then it can’t be a rape at all, as the woman experienced pleasure. This reasoning is flawed and disgusting on so many levels. A female orgasm is not necessary for conception, and an orgasm is involuntary and can occur during rape. That does not make it any less of a rape.

In Victorian times, female sexuality was repressed and female hysteria, which was characterized by sexual desire, and a tendency to cause trouble among other symptoms, was considered a medical condition and in some cases a mental illness. This remained so until 1952. Female hysteria, which was essentially identified through signs of sexual frustration, was also called wandering womb or the widows disease. In various times in history these conditions have been treated using clinical orgasms, forced hysterectomy, and even imprisonment in mental institutions.

According to this piece, Freud added to our troubles. Can’t say I am surprised. The article says Freud claimed that a woman who could not reach vaginal orgasms was to be considered frigid, and that it was her own shortcoming, and there was nothing the man could do about it. This resulted in women faking orgasms to avoid being labeled frigid.

What really is a female orgasm?

This article explains in scientific terms what an orgasm really is. It says, that during the build up to an orgasm an incredible amount of nerve and muscle tension develops in the genitals, pelvis, buttocks and thighs, and then the body finally releases all this tension at once, resulting in an orgasm, which is accompanied by an intense sensation of pleasure. At the moment of orgasm the uterus, vagina and anus contract simultaneously every 0.8 seconds for about 5 to 15 times.

In this post, 18 women say what they think an orgasm really feels like, making use of vivid imagery and apt similes.

The female orgasm can be of 4 distinct types and each one is worth exploring. These include clitoral orgasms, vaginal orgasms achieved through penetration alone, possibly by stimulation of the controversial G-spot, a blended orgasm which is supposed to be the epitome of ecstasy, and multiple orgasms, which can happen if a woman can tolerate continued stimulation soon after the first orgasm. For details on these 4 types of orgasms and how to achieve them click here.

Complications

Some women may have difficulty achieving orgasm, and while it is often related to stress or mental state, it can be an indicator of some underlying medical problems. Female orgasmic dysfunction is a condition in which women have trouble reaching, or are unable to reach, orgasm. It can be caused by shyness, cultural factors, stress, diabetes, low self-esteem, depression and some other issues.

There is another condition called persistent genital arousal disorder (PGAD) which although it sound like it may be pleasurable, is extremely uncomfortable and sometimes painful. The condition seems to be widely misunderstood and dismissed. The causes of PGAD are unknown and there are treatment options to help manage the symptoms, but no cure as such. This article, however sheds some light on the condition.

Health benefits

Orgasms have many health benefits from helping you sleep better, regularizing your monthly cycle, boosting your immune system, reducing migraine pain, to even possibly making you look younger. Read this article for more details. In addition, female masturbation also has some health benefits, including reduced risk of cervical infections and possibly reduced risk of cardiovascular diseases and type 2 diabetes. There are also some theories that suggest female orgasms can improve or influence female fertility.

Some poetry

What can be more poetic than an orgasm? Here is a poem I wrote sometime ago on female sexuality. Hope you enjoy it!

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Kanika G, a physicist by training and a mother of 2 girls, started writing to

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  1. Totally Agree!!!

    Masturbating is totally normal and because it let’s you learn about what you really want, it can greatly improve your sex life. But despite so the fact that most people masturbate, we still don’t talk about it enough.Don’t know why?

    So with this article I feel everyone should read this piece as well: https://www.bonobology.com/5-reasons-women-please-often/

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