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The poet laments putting friendships on the back burner once a woman gets married, and celebrates the revival of these friendships one realisation sets in.
You grow up, find the right man, get married
You grow a family, soon you are a mother harried
Your life revolves around work and family
When one fine day, quite suddenly
There comes a message out of the blue
From your old girlfriend, reminding you
Of priceless moments spent in the company
Of each other, there and then you get an epiphany-
In your near-perfect life, that is the void
Your familial obligations have left you devoid
Of the magic that being with girlfriends can create
The high-pitched laughter, the giddy state-
While the town is painted red by you
You long for it, and wonder if it can come true…
One thing leads to another and you find
Your old friends tucked in corners of your mind
Have all come together, you plan an all-girls’ getaway
From your monotonous lives, the very next day
You catch up on gossip, giggle aimlessly
Shop till you drop, then collapse listlessly
On the bed where you exchange some more
Stories (gossip), you do not get bored
When you are back home, you are rejuvenated
Being with girlfriends has some desires satiated-
For who else but your old friends would tolerate
You in your most unhinged, unrestrained state?
What you’ve been missing, you have now found
Life is less stressful with good friends around
They are your safety valves, your punching bags too
You need them in your life- that’s absolutely true!
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I am a woman, a physician, a mother and an aspiring writer rolled into one. I write about various aspects of my life, and my preferred form of writing is poetry (or rhyming verses). read more...
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It is easy to give in to patriarchal expectations from a married woman and lose your self in a marriage, but the path to happiness is in keeping your independence.
Marriage is often described as the joining of two individuals’ bodies, minds, and souls. Upon getting married, you are expected to share everything with your partner, including time, money, and all other aspects of life. Your life should revolve around your spouse from beginning to end.
But is it necessary to spend every waking moment with the spouse? Are you not supposed to have a life apart from your spouse? And do these rules apply only to women or men as well?
Although both men and women may face this situation, women are generally expected to give up everything once they get married. Despite progress in several areas, expecting women to abandon their interests, passions, and friendships to align their lives with those of their spouses is still considered the norm.
The rising numbers of single women choosing this life shout out clear and loud that patriarchy and sexism will no longer break or chain us.
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The book tells the stories of 15 single women across the world. A feeling of deep understanding and empathy fills you as you read the book and understand the challenges faced by the women who are single – by choice or chance. Some of the women chose to be single because they faced discrimination and even abuse as girl children. Some others had abusive marriages and sought divorce.
The tag line ‘Crafting pathways on rough terrains’ on the cover page is enough to tell you that this is a serious take on the issue of singlehood. If it focuses more on the rough than the smooth, that has been the reality for the 15 women.
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