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Stalking is not love. It is a serious crime against women that needs to be addressed on a war footing say #WomenOnTheMove.
Stalking can be defined as a course of conduct where an individual, especially a woman, is subjected to repeated or continuous mental or physical turmoil.
Is stalking gender specific? No, stalking is not gender specific and perpetrators and victims can both be male and female. However, most of the times it is seen that the stalkers are men. The harasser is often under a false impression that he/she is just trying to profess his/her love, although forcefully. The repeated harassment causes immense emotional distress including fear, intimidation and apprehension in the victim.
Stalking is not about being kool ! It’s a basic Male instinct & One should hv right to instinct ! Stalking ≠ Rape ! https://t.co/OQAbqVfQdO — Doberman◇Gang◇India (@pari_bravo) August 7, 2017
Stalking is not about being kool ! It’s a basic Male instinct & One should hv right to instinct ! Stalking ≠ Rape ! https://t.co/OQAbqVfQdO
— Doberman◇Gang◇India (@pari_bravo) August 7, 2017
This tweet is a true representation of how misinterpreted stalking is. Stalking is not love; stalking is a serious crime against women. Yes, stalking is not equal to rape, but stalking may lead to rape, kidnapping, acid attacks and also murder.
Most Indian women are familiar with street harassment and stalking. Our weekly #WomenOnTheMove chat got the Twitterati talking and sharing real life incidents of stalking and intimidation. We also discussed how to take stock of the situation and do something about it. Here’s what they said.
#WomenOnTheMove A1 On my blogs yes lots of sexual unwarranted trolling &physically long back as a college student in local buses in #Shimla. — Pooja Sharma Rao (@SoulVersified) August 9, 2017
#WomenOnTheMove A1 On my blogs yes lots of sexual unwarranted trolling &physically long back as a college student in local buses in #Shimla.
— Pooja Sharma Rao (@SoulVersified) August 9, 2017
Yes, you cant escape if you are in the capital city. Somewhere, somehow you become a victim. Pretend-you are equipped and help is around! — Anjali G Sharma (@anjgsharma) August 9, 2017
Yes, you cant escape if you are in the capital city. Somewhere, somehow you become a victim. Pretend-you are equipped and help is around!
— Anjali G Sharma (@anjgsharma) August 9, 2017
Growing up as a woman in India is an everyday fight. Being groped, eve-teased, sexually assaulted, harassed on the streets, being stalked, are so common in women’s lives, that finding an exception to the narrative is hard to believe.
Yes. Over 2 decades ago. He was at least 20 yrs older than I. Planned to kidnap me. His aide spilled beans and my family alerted cops. 1/2 — sanghamitra mazumdar (@sanghamitra_m) August 9, 2017
Yes. Over 2 decades ago. He was at least 20 yrs older than I. Planned to kidnap me. His aide spilled beans and my family alerted cops. 1/2
— sanghamitra mazumdar (@sanghamitra_m) August 9, 2017
A friend had a much older man follow her to school daily, never told parents. Cos she knew somewhere she would be blamed #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/2KIZFz4Pnz — Aparna V Singh (@editorsahiba) August 9, 2017
A friend had a much older man follow her to school daily, never told parents. Cos she knew somewhere she would be blamed #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/2KIZFz4Pnz
— Aparna V Singh (@editorsahiba) August 9, 2017
A1. Yep. I moved. #WomenOntheMove — BookBear (@MyBookJacket) August 9, 2017
A1. Yep. I moved. #WomenOntheMove
— BookBear (@MyBookJacket) August 9, 2017
A1. When I was college.I simply tried to ride by bicycle as fast as I can. #WomenOnTheMove — Shipra Trivedi (@trivediship) August 9, 2017
A1. When I was college.I simply tried to ride by bicycle as fast as I can. #WomenOnTheMove
— Shipra Trivedi (@trivediship) August 9, 2017
So many times. Back in high school, on local trains, in the neighbourhood, at office, in college and today, online stalking — Tina Sequeira (@tinajsequeira) August 9, 2017
So many times. Back in high school, on local trains, in the neighbourhood, at office, in college and today, online stalking
— Tina Sequeira (@tinajsequeira) August 9, 2017
I once told my friend that someone is following me in campus. He said you girls should be used to of this by now. This shows the prevalence — SWAT (@swatianandsingh) August 9, 2017
I once told my friend that someone is following me in campus. He said you girls should be used to of this by now. This shows the prevalence
— SWAT (@swatianandsingh) August 9, 2017
Movies mirror the society and vice versa. Actors and actresses are no less than demi-gods for people in India. No wonder if anyone dare speak against them, the “bhakts” take matters in their own hands by viciously trolling the mere mortal who dared to speak against their god without even verifying the facts or acknowledging the right to free speech. Now imagine, when these demi-gods dance to the tunes of “achi baat karli bahut, ab karenge gandi baat” or “tere peeche aaunga main, apna banaunga main, jayegi bach le kahaan“, the kind of dangerous message they inadvertently propagate!
Well media and society always reflect each other, though the medium is the message and mass media does influence impressionable minds deeply — Pooja Sharma Rao (@SoulVersified) August 9, 2017
Well media and society always reflect each other, though the medium is the message and mass media does influence impressionable minds deeply
For sure they should. Like they refuse to do cosmetic or coke commercial. Refuse movies with such scripts. — SWAT (@swatianandsingh) August 9, 2017
For sure they should. Like they refuse to do cosmetic or coke commercial. Refuse movies with such scripts.
Yes. The onus lies on filmmakers to not portray following/chasing/harassing women as a legit method of wooing them. https://t.co/NUYsv6Hnw5 — Shuchi Singh Kalra (@shuchikalra) August 9, 2017
Yes. The onus lies on filmmakers to not portray following/chasing/harassing women as a legit method of wooing them. https://t.co/NUYsv6Hnw5
— Shuchi Singh Kalra (@shuchikalra) August 9, 2017
A3.’N’ numbers of movies hv shown how stalking leads 2 LOVE down the time.This for sure aggravates other boys 2 try the same #WomenOnTheMove — Shipra Trivedi (@trivediship) August 9, 2017
A3.’N’ numbers of movies hv shown how stalking leads 2 LOVE down the time.This for sure aggravates other boys 2 try the same #WomenOnTheMove
We wouldn’t know about how certification works. But a conscience when making movies would go a long way. — BookBear (@MyBookJacket) August 9, 2017
We wouldn’t know about how certification works. But a conscience when making movies would go a long way.
Authorities shud first set examples with taking strict actions.This will encourage others to report such crime. 1/3 #WomenOnTheMove — Shipra Trivedi (@trivediship) August 9, 2017
Authorities shud first set examples with taking strict actions.This will encourage others to report such crime. 1/3 #WomenOnTheMove
Well lit streets. Cctv cameras. Proper police patrolling. Help centers near colleges to mention a few. — SWAT (@swatianandsingh) August 9, 2017
Well lit streets. Cctv cameras. Proper police patrolling. Help centers near colleges to mention a few.
Let the patrol police punish offenders on the spot. Physical harm. Social shame. That should set salking minds straight https://t.co/6OWu59lygc — Deepa Govind (@DeepaGovind) August 9, 2017
Let the patrol police punish offenders on the spot. Physical harm. Social shame. That should set salking minds straight https://t.co/6OWu59lygc
— Deepa Govind (@DeepaGovind) August 9, 2017
Practise what they preach themselves. They should take into task authorities who misbehave with women. Implement strict punishment. — Tina Sequeira (@tinajsequeira) August 9, 2017
Practise what they preach themselves. They should take into task authorities who misbehave with women. Implement strict punishment.
D basic hygience stuff lik ‘workin street lights, ‘functional’ cctvs, law n order wud help. Women can tk care of d rest #WomenOntheMove — Nidhi Sethi (@iam_agog) August 9, 2017
D basic hygience stuff lik ‘workin street lights, ‘functional’ cctvs, law n order wud help. Women can tk care of d rest #WomenOntheMove
— Nidhi Sethi (@iam_agog) August 9, 2017
And avoid victim blaming! — Calling Out Stalking (@CallOutStalking) August 9, 2017
And avoid victim blaming!
— Calling Out Stalking (@CallOutStalking) August 9, 2017
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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