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What do you think is the meaning of rape purely in a psycho-biological way? Read on to know - you'll be shocked!
What do you think is the meaning of rape purely in a psycho-biological way? Read on to know – you’ll be shocked!
Have you thought of what rape means in purely biological terms? It takes the lack of consent to a completely new level altogether. Very crudely, “I will rape you” biologically means “I will forcefully deposit my sperms in your uterus.”
You have seen in Hindi movies of the 1970’s through 1990’s, that the heroine, cornered by the villain, tearfully and fearfully pleads him not to rape her, or she will be destroyed, she will be ‘dishonored’, and she will have to live shamefully the rest of her life. (That the hero intervenes at the moment and saves her, is a part of the fictional screenplay).
Why is the reproductive system of females highlighted so much in our society? Why does her ‘honor’ depend on her biological virginity? Why is the woman considered to be simply a baby-producing machine?
Why is a man’s virginity never questioned? Because it cannot be verified? Because there is no proof of whether he has had sex before or not? So there is no apparent ‘loss’ of virginity. Women, on the other hand, lose their virginity once, and for all.
That’s why Ram questioned Sita’s chastity and asked her to undergo Agni Pariksha (virginity test, checking for Ravan’s sperms?!). Ravan had not raped the hostage Sita, and so she tested negative. Still, back in Ayodhya, Ram questioned her virginity again, and this time, asked her for an Agni Pariksha in his open court. Sita felt so thoroughly insulted that she committed suicide on the spot.
Notice that Sita never questioned Ram’s virginity/chastity even though he also was away from her during her hostage days. Is sexual ‘purity’ limited to women only? Don’t men need to be ‘pure’? If a guy sleeps with 5 women, he is a stud. If a girl sleeps with 5 men, she is a slut, right? Yaar, tired of these double standards of this male-dominated society!
Do you respect your sperms? Do you reserve them exclusively for your wife or do you pass it on to any woman indiscriminately? Are your sperms cheap that they can be scattered anywhere, even uninvited? If you have to force yourself on a woman, it means your sperms are not welcome. Only your wife can ask you for them.
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People say that women are the greatest enemies of women. I vehemently disagree. It is the patriarchal mindset that makes women believe in the wrong ideology.
The entire world celebrates International Women’s Day on March 8, 2024. It should be a joyful day, but unfortunately, not all women are entitled to this privilege, as violence against women is at its peak. The experience of oppression pushes many women to choose freedom. As far as patriotism is concerned, feminism is not a cup of tea in this society.
What happens when a woman decides to stand up for herself? Does this world easily accept the decisions of women in this society? What inspires them to be free of the clutches of the oppression that women have faced for ages? Most of the time, women do not get the chance to decide for themselves. Their lives are always at the mercy of someone, which can be their parents, siblings, husband, or children.
In some cases, women do not feel the need to make any decisions. They are taught to obey the patriarchal system, which makes them believe that they are right. In my family, I was never taught to make decisions on my own. It was always my parents who bought dresses and all that I needed.
14 years after her last feature film Dhobi Ghat, storyteller extraordinaire comes up with her new film, Laapataa Ladies, a must watch.
*Some spoilers alert*
Every religion around the world dictates terms to women. The onus is always on women to be ‘modest’ and cover their faces and bodies so men can’t be “tempted”, rather than on men to keep their eyes where they belong and behave like civilized beings. So much so that even rape has been excused on the grounds of women eating chowmein or ‘men will be men’. I think the best Hindi movie retort to this unwanted advice on ‘akeli ladki khuli tijori ki tarah hoti hai’ (an alone woman is like an open jewellery box) came from Geet in Jab We Met – Kya aap gyan dene ke paise lete hain kyonki chillar nahin hain mere paas.
The premise of Laapataa Ladies is beautifully simple – two brides clad in the ghunghat that covers their identity get mixed up on a train. Within this Russian Doll, you get a comedy of errors, a story of getting lost, a commentary on patriarchy’s attitude towards women, a mystery, and a tale of finding oneself, all in one. Done with a mostly light touch that has you laughing and nodding along.
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