Check out these 8 Government Loan Schemes That You Can Benefit From As A Woman In Business.
Talking on pregnancy recently, Kareena Kapoor recently said that all pregnancies are not the same, on being criticised for going out right after delivery. We need to remember this before passing judgement on new moms.
As quoted in this interview, Kareena said, “Yes, I was on my feet a few days after the delivery, but it’s upsetting to have people judge you for it. No one has the right to comment on how I conduct myself or what sort of a mother I am. Everyone seems to have an opinion. Postpartum depression is not a must, right? It’s whimsical to generalize that every woman goes through that phase, almost making it sound like a norm. Every pregnancy and every mother’s journey with her child during those nine months and afterwards is different. You can’t draw parallels. No one out there really knows me or what I am feeling at a given time. How can anyone decide on my behalf whether I am supposed to feel depressed or if I can step out before 45 days? If I’m spoken about like that, what would it be like for other women?”
I agree, not all pregnancies are the same and no one can draw parallels – everyone has a different journey. I have heard many women speak of working till they went to the hospital for their delivery and they proudly wear it as a badge of honour. First of all, congratulations because it is no mean task with all the pain and discomfort of being pregnant and losing control over one’s body. It is also breaking many societal norms and in a society where women with kids and pregnant women are written off in their careers, it is setting a precedent for sure.
But before you ridicule women who complain of pain or take rest during their pregnancies, do keep in mind that not all pregnancies are the same – sometimes, not even with the same woman. There are cases when the first trimester leaves a woman unable to keep any food down and she throws up everything, leaving her weak. There are cases when the pregnancy leaves the woman so zapped and tired that she needs to find a special reserve of energy just to get up from bed. This is besides serious complications that many women encounter during pregnancy such as high blood pressure, gestational diabetes or cervical insufficiency which can require bedrest during pregnancy.
After I went through one such difficult pregnancy, a relative had casually remarked on why I ‘had’ to gain so much weight; I remarked that the weight gain was primarily because of my pregnancy to which his answer was to compare me with his wife who was thin – but then again, she has her problems to contend with. Also, my pregnancy weight gain was not because I ate ghee and other goodies – it was largely because of medication given to me so that my baby had a fighting chance. My weight story involved eating uninspiring microwave dinners that my hospital provided for me.
I reiterate – not all pregnancies are the same, just like not all women who menstruate have the same symptoms or pain during their periods. Some women and some periods or even some days can have horrific pain or fatigue associated with them, while some women or the same woman during a different period can have an easy breezy period and wear white and go skating and slide over hand rails like in a sanitary pad ad.
This is just like not everyone has the same experience with conception either – some couples get pregnant very easily while others go through a difficult time to get pregnant and some never conceive. Our bodies are different and the way they react will be different, whether it is to periods, conception, delivery or on pregnancy. So do empathize and know this, that not every one will have the experience you had – simply because their body decided to go a different route.
There is also the reality of post partum depression, so don’t ask women to suck it up and stop being so emotional or say that “this is normal, everyone goes through it” – because different people go through different things that one might not be privy to. Be empathetic and maybe that is how you could help.
So kudos if you worked till the last date and kudos that you want to encourage women to work and not dwell on pregnancy like a disease because it is not; but know this, that everyone’s truth will be different from yours and their journey too.
Top image is a Youtube screenshot, from Kareena’s appearance on Koffee with Karan, during her pregnancy
Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views. Individual posts do not necessarily represent the platform's views and opinions at all times. If you have a complementary or differing point of view, sign up and start sharing your views too!
Guest Bloggers are those who want to share their ideas/experiences, but do not have a profile here. Write to us at [email protected] if you have a special situation (for e.g. want read more...
Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views, individual posts do not necessarily represent the platform's views and opinions at all times.
Stay updated with our Weekly Newsletter or Daily Summary - or both!
Chetan Bhagat had no business slut shaming Uorfi Javed or any other woman. If he wants to 'guide' young men in the 'right direction' then he should take accountability for his words.
Chetan Bhagat, one of India’s bestselling authors, thought it was an ingenious idea to slut-shame Uorfi Javed, an Indian actress and influencer, at the Sahitya Aaj Tak literature festival.
“Phone has been a great distraction for the youth, especially the boys, spending hours just watching Instagram Reels. Everyone knows who Uorfi Javed is. What will you do with her photos? Is it coming in your exams or you will go for a job interview and tell the interviewer that you know all her outfits? On one side, there is a youth who is protecting our nation at Kargil and on another side, we have another youth who is seeing Uorfi Javed’s photos hiding in their blankets.”
Uorfi Javed responded with a video on her Instagram stories calling out Bhagat’s bluff. She shared the screenshots of his previous chat conversations with Ira Trivedi, author and yoga instructor, which came to light during the #MeToo movement.
While boys are taught to naturally own the space they enter, girls are taught to give up, to accommodate, to adjust since "it is their primary responsibility to keep families and relations together."
Yesterday, I was watching these 4 young girls around 16 – 17 years old play badminton. They were having fun, goofing around with all 4 of them equally involved in the game.
In some time two of their male friends joined them, and as part of round robin, the 2 boys replaced two of the girls. All good.
As the play continued, I started noticing a change in the way the game was being played. The shuttle was played most of the times between the two boys and there was a sense of competition and aggression brought in. The other 2 girls playing soon starting losing interest in the game as they hardly got any game time. Even if the shuttle came towards them, the boy in their team would move and play that shot. They soon moved to the sidelines as the boys continued to play.
Please enter your email address