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Why do married men hit on single women and feel that we should be grateful for it too? Here’s a fitting rejoinder to these men.
Being a single woman in the late 20s is tough. We don’t really get a chance to meet new men. Just the ones from our daily routine – colleagues, cab drivers, security guards, delivery men. We register ourselves on dating sites strongly believing that we could make it happen. We try to be very social, and attend every play, concert and comedy night with friends and friends of friends…
In our devoted search to find our man, we encounter a category of men who are most readily available. They are everywhere, in abundance. This is the most UNDESIRABLE category of men, rather the category that should be disqualified: Married men who hit on single women and love doing it!
These men have completely contaminated the entire social framework for us. They start out by wanting to be friends and have deep, soulful conversations, followed by borderline inappropriate compliments, asking out for harmless lunches, dinners, movies to finally making sexual advances. They fail to realize that we may be available, but not for them.
So, here is my list of 8 things married men love saying to the single women they are persistent to pursue, based on some unfortunate personal experiences, and experiences shared by friends.
We did have meaningful conversations in the beginning. That is how I became interested in talking to you. But soon your primal, carnal, disloyal, creepy self took over. The only conversation you could eventually make was “You look so hot! What a sexy profile picture!” Agh!!
We barely talk to teach other, let alone…I don’t believe everything you say but I am not surprised. I wonder why she hasn’t divorced you yet.
Let’s catch up, anyways you don’t have family. I don’t. But you do. I can’t believe you are so casual about sabotaging it!
Well, I am so glad we didn’t! I feel bad for your wife. I am happy that I get to reject you now, and would have been happy to reject you when you were single.
What research! What study of evolution! But wait a minute? That shouldn’t apply to you anyway, because you are a pig!
I can give you everything you want….How generous of you! I guess you mean you could give me your divided time, pay for a few dinners and drinks and satisfy me sexually as well. Guess what?
I am an independent woman. Not looking for your money. I am really not interested in the time that you should probably be spending helping your child with their homework. And do you know India’s population and sex ratio? There are so many single men who can give me what I want. You are just wasting my time which I could spend on finding and meeting somebody I could have a committed relationship with.
We have shared so much. We would be great together…What words of wisdom! You cared to make up so much crap to sleep with me?
Would any single guy you date necessarily marry you? Nice logic. But I do not wish to be with someone who wants to commit adultery and causes unhappiness to another woman.
Finally, I want to say this to all married men on behalf of single women:
Yes, we are single but not desperate. We may be lonely at times but we still have a strong sense of morals. We may like to talk to you or even hang out with you but that does not mean that you should try your luck any further.
We are really NOT INTERESTED in you, not even for casual sex. We have better options there too among single men. So please behave yourselves and stay within your boundaries. Have some respect for us, as well as the sanctity of the institution you have chosen to be a part of. Please don’t test your marriage and our tolerance. You are making a fool of yourself, and playing with fire.
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