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So many people who feel compelled to write a letter to a daughter. Why aren’t anyone writing similar letters to their sons? Don’t sons need to know all that, too?
Another beautiful letter by an iconic father to a proud daughter. Interspersed with pearls of wisdom, inculcating the family values, the sacrifices the parents made to raise their children, the values of austerity and compassion, the emotions the daughter espoused in them at different stages of her life, such heartwarming letters prompt you to pick up the phone and tell your parents how much you love them.
These letters are certainly thought-provoking but I feel uneasy when I read them. Not because I am neither a celebrity nor have a daughter so I know I will never be asked to write a letter to my daughter. I feel uneasy because I wonder why no parent wants to write a letter to a son telling him the sacrifices his parents made in raising him, telling him that it is not enough to carry forward the family surname, he needs to carry forward the family values too. Why no one writes to a son about the love that he is expected to reciprocate towards his parents/siblings.
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Just like a daughter, a son too needs to understand the principles of sincerity, dedication, compassion and empathy endured by his parents in their struggling years. He too wants to know the troubles his father and mother took in raising a son thus subtly advising him what it takes to be a parent and keep a family together.
‘A son is a son ’til he gets a wife, but a daughter is a daughter all her life’ – the famous quote by Emily Giffin. Letters or no letters, you can be sure that a daughter will carry on the family legacy, she will be caring towards parents even if continents away, will make sacrifices for her own children, spouse and in-laws but son… you are fortunate if he does so.
His parents never told him what was expected from him as a son, as a husband. When he got married, he was not told that he would need astute diplomacy to do a fine balancing act between his parents and wife. Tilting towards one side once in a while is okay but being skewed beyond the acceptable range towards either side will certainly be detrimental to happiness of both the parties.
His wife on the other hand was explained in a letter by her doting parents what it takes to adjust and adapt for the new family. It was instilled in her that she needs to take pride in sacrificing her own desires sometimes (not always) to keep others happy but his parents never told a son that he too needed to accommodate and adjust for others’ sake.
His parents forgot to write a letter to him telling him that just like he has dreams, his future wife would also have her dreams and aspirations which he is expected to support. He was also never told that it’s not his right to plonk on the sofa and browse channels after a hard day at work, while his wife is expected to work tirelessly on both fronts. That at times he will have to put together a meal for his children/wife no matter how exhausted he is because it is not just enough to be a provider, he has to be a caregiver too at the same time.
No one wrote to him about the work-life balance that he is expected to strive for. He always assumed that cooking, cleaning, supervising kids’ homework, attending PTAs, running errands, tending to aged parents of both sides are his wife’s domains which he need not meddle with.
Right from the day, he was born, he was made aware of his rights but why did his parents assume that he would learn about his duties on his own? A son needs a letter too.
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