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Will #SelfieWith Daughter campaign on social media really help the plight of India women? The writer does not think so and this is why!
But, there are things that need much more attention than armchair-resolutions. The state of women in this nation is one out of many grave issues which need real activism and not just a social-media trend. A #SelfieWithDaughter won’t make India safe for women, or control female infanticide, or stop dowry deaths or keep a check on domestic violence. These are issues which have been neglected by our leaders since time immemorial and my #AchcheDin will come only when these issues are taken seriously instead of just starting campaigns and not digging deeper.
These are issues that are not skin deep, these are beliefs that are rooted into the bloodstream of our nation. Also, given the attention span of people these days, it is futile to invest in something that’ll be as easily forgotten as it got trending. It would have made better news if the PM did something real to support one single girl child in any way. That would have created a larger impact and a bigger news to influence people, if that was the thought behind starting a selfie-campaign. Armchair-campaigns won’t resolve the twisted mindsets of those who might post a #SelfieWithDaughter due to being a Modi-Bhakt but will still believe that she is #ParayaDhan.
As much as I support Gay rights, I don’t need a rainbow colored profile picture to show that. As much as I support Gay rights, I don’t need a rainbow colored profile picture to show that. I wrote my heart out for Jyoti Singh Pandey, not once but a number of times without reducing myself to a black circle on Facebook. My support for the Indian Cricket Team is regardless of the fact that my blood is red ( I don’t bleed blue, and nor does anyone else) #SelfieWithDaughter is nothing more but another such thing for me. It’s just a campaign which will trend for a while and die a natural death. Unlike many daughters who were burnt alive for dowry or killed in the womb. Sigh. I fail to understand why we don’t accept that there are things which are clearly wrong with the nation. Why do we glamorize hollow initiatives instead of pushing for bigger reforms? Why do we want to settle for the mediocrity of accepting whatever little is available instead of asking for what really is needed? Why are we happy that a campaign as shallow as #SelfieWithDaughter is trending instead of worrying why there are no real ground-level initiatives to change the way the nation treats its women? One that might not be a real issue, but still bothers me – Why are Sakshi Maharaj and the ones with similar thought process still allowed to speak and spread venom against women but a documentary which only reinforced the reality of #IndiasDaughters is banned? Maybe, I should wait and watch if there’s more to #SelfieWithDaughter than just what is trending. Maybe, I should wait and watch if there’s more to #SelfieWithDaughter than just what is trending. There’s little hope, though. Little, because a few months back, PM Modi urged people to plant five trees when a daughter is born. It’s a noble thing to do, but then cutting those trees off to sell the timber to be able to fund her wedding – how 21st-century is that? Interestingly, he doesn’t ask people to do the same for funding a boy’s wedding, because, well, you know why!Never miss real stories from India's women.Register Now Picture Credits- Narendra Modi for PM – Page on Facebook #SelfieWithDaughter created a fair share of controversies and Ms Shruti Seth came into limelight after a lull in her acting career. Her open letter to the PM brought her into the centre of political attention. It all could easily be a stunt to grab some publicity, but I would still defend her right to free speech. Even before she (or her PR team) uttered those words, #SelfieWithDaugher made no sense to me as a woman who is at the crossroads of a freedom struggle with her own nation.
As much as I support Gay rights, I don’t need a rainbow colored profile picture to show that.
As much as I support Gay rights, I don’t need a rainbow colored profile picture to show that. I wrote my heart out for Jyoti Singh Pandey, not once but a number of times without reducing myself to a black circle on Facebook. My support for the Indian Cricket Team is regardless of the fact that my blood is red ( I don’t bleed blue, and nor does anyone else)
#SelfieWithDaughter is nothing more but another such thing for me. It’s just a campaign which will trend for a while and die a natural death. Unlike many daughters who were burnt alive for dowry or killed in the womb. Sigh.
I fail to understand why we don’t accept that there are things which are clearly wrong with the nation. Why do we glamorize hollow initiatives instead of pushing for bigger reforms? Why do we want to settle for the mediocrity of accepting whatever little is available instead of asking for what really is needed? Why are we happy that a campaign as shallow as #SelfieWithDaughter is trending instead of worrying why there are no real ground-level initiatives to change the way the nation treats its women? One that might not be a real issue, but still bothers me – Why are Sakshi Maharaj and the ones with similar thought process still allowed to speak and spread venom against women but a documentary which only reinforced the reality of #IndiasDaughters is banned?
Maybe, I should wait and watch if there’s more to #SelfieWithDaughter than just what is trending.
Maybe, I should wait and watch if there’s more to #SelfieWithDaughter than just what is trending. There’s little hope, though. Little, because a few months back, PM Modi urged people to plant five trees when a daughter is born. It’s a noble thing to do, but then cutting those trees off to sell the timber to be able to fund her wedding – how 21st-century is that? Interestingly, he doesn’t ask people to do the same for funding a boy’s wedding, because, well, you know why!
#SelfieWithDaughter created a fair share of controversies and Ms Shruti Seth came into limelight after a lull in her acting career. Her open letter to the PM brought her into the centre of political attention. It all could easily be a stunt to grab some publicity, but I would still defend her right to free speech. Even before she (or her PR team) uttered those words, #SelfieWithDaugher made no sense to me as a woman who is at the crossroads of a freedom struggle with her own nation.
India, as a whole needs to wake up from slumber right now. It’s already too late for minimal actions like selfies to work. It’s time for real action now or else we’ll lose a war. Today, some states like Haryana have such a skewed sex ratio that there are no brides for their boys. Tomorrow, this might be the country’s plight and the worst nightmare of India’s parents might come true. Then, people might remember their #SelfieWithDaughter and hope those girls were treated with a little respect.
Mother daughter selfie image via Shutterstock
First published at the author’s blog
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She would serve everyone fresh food and serve herself the stale rice and curries from the previous meal. Some days after finishing the leftovers she was so full she would not even be able to even taste the fresh food.
When I married the first time, my MIL told me that during the Navratri the lady of the house should not eat stale food. ‘Gharatlya bai ni shila khau naye’ — in refined upper caste Marathi.
I was just 26, eager to please, not versed in patriarchy or feminism, and it seemed like a positive thing — respect for the goddess in woman.
But soon I realised she spent the remaining 356 days of her year finishing leftovers. And that I was expected to do the same.
We say that we live in modern times and talk on subjects like feminism, supporting your loved ones, encouraging them to follow their dreams. But how many of us can really say that they actually do that?
We live in a world where there comes times in everyone’s life when one has to make choices which will leave a long term impact in not just their life but on the lives of those attached to them.
Giving the ones you claim to love the freedom and space to make their own choices and the wings to fly is not only the right thing to do but sometimes its also the thing they need the most; without having to face the ‘guilt’ of living the life they want.