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I started blogging at about the same time that I started my journey as a mother. And in the past few years, personal interest and sheer necessity has found me at many an odd hour on many a parenting blog – sometimes it is to read about how to handle a situation, sometimes it is to learn and prepare myself (for better or worse), sometimes it is to get an alternate opinion/view-point/perspective, sometimes it is for all the wisdom and “gyaan”, sometimes it is just to know that I’m not alone (and a zillion other mothers have been there and done that!), sometimes it is just to feel that I am fortunate (and could have had it a lot worse!), sometimes it is to dream about how much better it could have been (had I been in someone else’s shoes), sometimes it is just to kill time (though that’s rare, but then it counts as “ME” time for a mother!), sometimes it is just a break from the drudgeries and monotony of everyday life, and sometimes it is just to bring a bit of sunshine to my rather gloomy day!
All literature and theory talks about Parenting as a shared responsibility between the father and the mother. And yet! I find that 95% of the parenting blogs are authored by women – in most cases mothers.
Let me give you a few examples:
(1) Check the list of authors in the HuffingtonPost Parenting section, and the vast majority of the writers / contributors are women / mothers
(2) Check the list of posts and their contributors at Parentous – which is an Indian parenting community blog, and more than 95% of content and comments are from women/mothers (And I’m one of their regular contributors, and a regular reader here – So I can vouch for this)
(3) Check the parenting blogs listed on the Directory of Top Blogs in India ; which is an ongoing effort to showcase some of the best Indian blogs and bloggers from India . The section itself is titled as “Mommy Bloggers” and includes all women / mothers. There’s not even a section for Daddy Bloggers.
(4) The only multi-platform Parenting show (including blog, video, TV, Twitter, etc. ) in India that I am aware of and follow is the The Tara Sharma Show. Again, it has been conceptualized and is anchored by a woman / mother.
To be honest, the only parenting related blog which I’ve come across that is run by a dad is A Dad’s Point of View by Bruce Sallan.
I can’t help but wonder why a vast majority of the parenting blogs are mostly authored by women / mothers.
Is it because women/mothers are more involved in parenting?
Is it because women/mothers feel more strongly about parenting?
Is it because women/mothers are the primary care-givers for their children and hence have more to express/share?
Is it because the women/mothers have more time? Come on! In case you didn’t know, being a mother is a 24 X 7 X 365 days of the year job. So a mother has to create/make the time to write (in spite/despite everything!)
And also, I can’t help but wonder why more men / daddies don’t write on parenting blogs.
Is the man/daddy not qualified to write? I don’t buy it!
Is the man/daddy not experienced to write? I thought parenting is an everyday experience?
Is the man/daddy not competent to write? Come on! If he can write those lengthy e-mails, complex software code, complicated balance sheets and management reports, then a note on parenting should be child’s play?
Is the man/daddy not interested in sharing his personal experiences? Huh! From when did men feel shy about sharing their experiences, however personal they may be?
Would like to hear your views.. Leave a comment to let me know…
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Why are most blogs on parenting authored by women ? Simple ! Its because almost all fulltime caregivers are mothers.
Its mostly women who are interested in topics like relationships , family etc. Men’s interests lie elsewhere.
Agreed about women being primary care-givers. But i don’t buy men not being interested in relationships. They make the world go round 🙂
I think it’s because women are mostly the primary caregivers, and also that personal blogging is dominated by women. Children fall into the realm of the personal and men don’t seem to explore their personal lives publicly whether on blogs or even in conversation.
I agree that women / mothers are the primary caregivers. But with women stepping out of homes, many men are hands-on in parenting.. They just don’t write about it. And you’re right! It is also interesting that very few men actually have personal blogs.. Women dominate here.. Wonder why?
Nobody takes a man’s opinion seriously in matters of parenting -it’s considered to be the woman’s forte. Whenever I tried to suggest something related to caring for the children in my family, I was ignored and told that women know how to do it right, and that it’s “natural” to them.
Interesting observation, Mohan. Agree partly – I do see families where men are shushed or otherwise kept out of active parenting – but I also see as many men who are content to leave it all to their wives and not lift a hand.
Riti – I agree. Way too many men are happy to wash their hands of everyday parenting! They confine their role to the financial contributions, and leave the rest to the women.
Mohan – I don’t think you can generalize here. Many daddy’s of today know and do a lot of things for their children. But yes! what you say may still be true in many homes.
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Men don’t feel comfortable sharing their personal experiences.Most men don’t know how to express their feelings, leave alone write about them! And some of them feel that it is waste of time to write about something that everyone knows about…. they even think that blogging is something women do because they don’t have anything better to do. My IMO. 🙂
I agree (with whatever men feel about this! ;-))
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