Anupama writes a letter to her 18-years old daughter. Read what she has to say.
In the United States, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the Department for Children And Families (DCF) define child maltreatment as any act or series of acts of commission or omission by a parent or other caregiver that results in harm, potential for harm, or threat of harm to a child. Child abuse can take several forms. The four main categories are physical, sexual, psychological, and neglect.
What are the consequences of such abuse? The immediate effects of child abuse are more evident – flashbacks, nightmares, insomnia, fear, anxiety, guilt and self-blame – are clearly related to the abuse.
What could the long-term consequences of abuse be?
Long-term Effect of Child Abuse 1: Low Self-Esteem
It may be hard for someone who has battled persistent abuse alone, to accept that someone can love him/her. Such a person may go through insecurity and feelings of rejection leading to troubled relationships.
Long-term Effect of Child Abuse 2: Difficulty handling stress
Those who have undergone childhood trauma may not be equipped with coping skills necessary to handle stress and the pressures of everyday living. Lack of an emotional support system in adulthood can aggravate the situation.
Long-term Effect of Child Abuse 3: Propensity to further abuse in adulthood
Children who have a history of abuse or neglect are at significantly higher risk of undergoing further abuse in adulthood. This has been found particularly when there was emotional withdrawal, inconsistent treatment or neglect of physical care by caregivers, or the validity of the child’s thoughts and feelings had been denied.
Perhaps a trusted person dismissing the child makes him/her unsure and ignore signs that something is amiss, when faced with abuse again later in life?
Long-term Effect of Child Abuse 4: Perpetration of abuse
The abused, when in a position of power, can become perpetrators of abuse themselves.
History repeats itself and the cycle continues.
Long-term Effect of Child Abuse 5: Incidence of Personality Disorders
Research suggests that children who have undergone verbal, physical or sexual abuse are at high risk of development of personality disorders in adulthood. Studies show that along with genetic predisposition and temperament, child abuse is a major factor.
– Children who had experienced verbal abuse (such as being screamed at, told they were not loved, threatened with being sent away) were three times more likely to have borderline, narcissistic, obsessive-compulsive or paranoid personality disorders in adulthood.
– A correlation was found between sexual abuse and the incidence of personality disorders later in life.
– A large percentage of people with borderline personality disorder reported incest and loss of caregivers in early childhood.
– There appeared to be a pattern of physical abuse leading to the development of antisocial and impulsive behavior.
(Source: Wikipedia)
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It takes tremendous support and lots and lots of love for the abused to love themselves, and to see that others love them unconditionally too. And even then, it may at times be difficult for them to have control of their emotions and behavior.
A strong network of 4 a.m. friends can help to a great extent.
Recognizing the symptoms, acceptance and getting help (emotional, professional or medical) is the key.
Like with anything else, acknowledging the situation is half the battle won.
Child abuse does not necessarily translate to an unhappy life. The past does not have to mar the future. Abuse or no abuse, we would all do well to live in the present!
Well, it’s true that I have been hurt in my life. Quite a bit. But it’s also true that I have loved, and been loved, and that carries a weight of its own. A greater weight, in my opinion. In the end, I’ll look back on my life and see that the greatest piece of it was love. The problems, the sadness… those will be there too, but just smaller slivers, tiny pieces.”
― Sarah Dessen, This Lullaby
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Arundhati Venkatesh is a children's writer. Her books have won several awards, including the
I came across your website and stumbled on this article. It’s a very tough topic because I assume most people don’t even want to talk about it.
Thank you for posting.
Jessica – Welcome here, and thanks for your comment. Here on Women’s Web, you will find thought-provoking articles on many such topics. So do keep visiting!
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