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The hero’s family is modern, feminist and open-minded; a twist with a refreshing breather. Yet, patriarchy ruined Tu Jhoothi Main Makkar!
I just finished watching one of the most hyped movies of this year. Tu Jhoothi Main Makaar starring Ranbir Kapoor and Shraddha Kapoor.
It’s a nice, romantic movie with both of them having a great screen presence. The twist of showing the hero’s family as very modern, feminist and open-minded is definitely a good, refreshing breather.
And yet, by the time the movie ends, I am left disappointed again. The patriarchy in us somehow always wins. I guess that’s the end that people want to see.
So in case you’ve not watched the movie here is the gist of it. Two people in love, no hate, no melodrama, no villain in the family but a simple desire by a girl – to have her own house.
She doesn’t want him to choose between her and his family, so decides to walk away.
Without flinching an eyelid for generations, we expect girls to leave their houses and walk into their husband’s houses. Never have the girl’s parents looked at the boy differently because he wants the girl to leave her house.
A girl’s parents don’t look at the boy thinking he’s breaking their family. We do this without a question, as traditions are followed blindly.
But if a man is asked to leave his house, there is so much melodrama starting from
‘The girl who wants to break the family”, to condemn the girl for being selfish.
The patriarchy is never going to go away.
But coming back to the movie the end is that she lives with his joint family and accepts them happily.
Could they have been another ending?
Could they have bought the house next door? Down the street?
Having the end show that she accepts the family, and they all live happily ever after just proves again that women need to make sacrifices, we need to be accepting.
Having this ending just goes ahead to prove that her desire was unjustified to begin with. What was the point to raise the issue if the filmmaker did not want to justify or show a newness.
So what if his family is modern and open-minded; the question I ask.
“Can a girl voice her choices only if she has abusive or old-fashioned in-laws?”
Does a situation need to be abusive, toxic or bad and then only then a girl’s choice will be accepted by Society as okay?
People think it’s too feminist of an attitude, but can we start looking at all men as breaking a girl’s family? The thought doesn’t even cross our minds.
But we are so quick to judge a woman for voicing her opinions. Raise your voice but only if you are physically dying because women your freedom is crumpled daily without a flinch!
We are free to say! But yes, exceptions and fine print can’t be seen.
Image source: Still from the film, edited on CanvaPro
Shikha Poddar a mother & entrepreneur, born and brought up in India is a versatile feminist writer who writes in Hindi and English. She is also known for curating classical music evenings and promoting the knowledge read more...
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