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As wonderful as it is to be there for someone at their highest points in life, it's equally if not more important to be there in their lowest times.
I have over the past few months become very passionate about observing emotionally dispassionate people. I am always left in awe of how uncomfortable someone gets with real life struggles and emotions of another person.
To be honest, despite my lack of emotional maturity at many stages in life, I have always tried to be there for a friend or family member when their world is spinning.
I have had candid conversations on social anxiety, marriage, parenthood, unplanned failures, job losses and so much more. And definitely my life wasn’t ever on the same track as another person’s.
But still, if someone opens up to you about raw struggles, you’ve got to be human. What kind of a person would I be if I mock them or worse, ice them out.
Unfortunately it’s not the case with so many people I know, it’s absolutely fine to share good news , happy occasions and celebrate life. I am all for it. In fact, I love seeing posts that are positive and life affirming, especially from genuine people. No comments on the fake ones.
Whatever happened to being human?
Why do people suffer in silence and drown alone?
I have so many instances personally, where I have been shunned for sharing my struggles, I have had people come up to me and be really mean. Our society nowadays is so adept in adopting different cultures when it comes to entertainment and cuisines. I wonder why didn’t anyone adopt the softness of any culture.
In today’s day and age when we are still in a pandemic and so much has altered in life, we have a human race that runs away from reality. As wonderful as it is to be there for someone at their highest points in life, it’s equally if not more important to be there in their lowest times. I can never just see a post of a friend clearly indicating something and be like-” Eh too depressing.”
I can’t never say to someone that they are being sad and mopey and they should seek help. I am not against mental health help but it’s no one’s place to say so and impose it on someone when all they want is to say it out loud. I wonder if we start posting real life on social media, what is going to happen? I would like to quote Haruki Murakami – What happens when people open their hearts? They get better.
And yes humanity, opening our hearts does help and when we can we should be there for someone in our lifetime.
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Why do women have to go through so much trauma just for being women? Who gives men the right to behave in this way?
Trigger warning: This post contains depiction of normalised violence against women, and may be triggering for survivors.
My belly is living proof
of the life I have grown, held, and birthed
a ‘permanently pregnant’ swell
stretch marks and a caesarian scar
that still itch
an experience I wouldn’t trade in
except for what I was told by the father of my child.
It is easy to give in to patriarchal expectations from a married woman and lose your self in a marriage, but the path to happiness is in keeping your independence.
Marriage is often described as the joining of two individuals’ bodies, minds, and souls. Upon getting married, you are expected to share everything with your partner, including time, money, and all other aspects of life. Your life should revolve around your spouse from beginning to end.
But is it necessary to spend every waking moment with the spouse? Are you not supposed to have a life apart from your spouse? And do these rules apply only to women or men as well?
Although both men and women may face this situation, women are generally expected to give up everything once they get married. Despite progress in several areas, expecting women to abandon their interests, passions, and friendships to align their lives with those of their spouses is still considered the norm.
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