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The arranged marriage system that sends our daughters to homes of almost strangers means that they are always vulnerable to unknown dangers.
Trigger Warning: This deals with domestic violence and may be triggering for survivors.
A few years ago, I received a call from a close friend at 11 pm, asking if she could come over to spend the night. Naturally I said yes, especially since my instinct told me that she was possibly in an unsafe environment.
Her husband had thrown her out of their home unceremoniously that fateful night. She went on to stay for a week while figuring out her situation.
How many women in abusive relationships find themselves in a situation of imminent emotional or physical danger with nowhere to go, even if for a night? Too many. How many spaces/places are available for them in an emergency? Not enough.
I know of parents who proudly declare that if their daughter came home after a marital spat, they wouldn’t take her in. Imagine being alienated from your own family, being refused entry into your own house when you are at your most vulnerable.
We literally send our women into homes with people that we know nothing about. We send them to cities where there is no one except the marital family.
What happens if one night, an argument breaks out within the family, and the woman finds herself in a place of potential danger to her body, mind and heart? Almost every woman I know has found herself in a situation where she needed to run away, if even for a night, even if just to get her head sorted.
Does she have a safe house that she can go to? A place that is warm, non judgemental and accepting – where she knows she can rest her weary body and mind for a bit. Where she can recover from the overwhelming world and the demands on her. A safe house in her city, which she can reach as soon as she needs to.
Today, because of social media, women are finding their tribe, their emotional safe houses. Friends and allies they can lean on in times of distress because friends, many times are better allies than family – allies who have each others’ backs, who ask no questions and extend unconditional support and help.
I found a similar tribe online and I know without a doubt, that my life is easier because of it. Find yours.
Find a safehouse either online or in your city, and hope and pray that you never need to use it. But know also that it will be open to you whenever you need it.
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